MC hookups

This is quite common in MC. When my father was in MC, a female resident decided that he was her boyfriend. My mother would visit frequently and always sit with my father and they would hold hands. Finally the other resident asked my mother who she was and she told her that she was Frank's wife. The other resident decided that was okay as long as she could be his girlfriend. As far as my mother knew from the MC staff, nothing ever went any further than my father and the female resident sitting together in the common area and holding hands.

My FIL with dementia had several girlfriends when he was in AL. No problems. My MIL had already passed. DH had a girlfriend in his first MC placement. This is not an uncommon situation. He always reassured me that they were just friends. I always took it as a need to be close to someone and comfort.

About 2 years when visitation was limited due to Covid the Wellness Director at the MC called me to let me know that a consensual attraction between DW and a male resident had developed. She would not tell me who the other party was but they would keep a close eye on them and try to redirect them when found together. One day when I was able to visit, DW point to a male resident and told me, “he likes me”. DW had not recognized me as her husband for a couple of years at that point and I was OK with the idea that she had a new friend. I do not believe it went anywhere beyond handholding and an occasional kiss.

My grandmother forgot she hated men and had a boyfriend she would sit with and hold hands. It was sweet. My grandmother forgot a lot of the things she hated about the world and was much calmer and more accepting around stage 5-6 or so.