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mini moments and self talk / inner dialog

jen ht
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Hi community,

I am reminding myself that Alzheimer's is what has changed dad's living situation and opportunity for more freedom. It's Alzheimer's that he's actually upset about. That anger and frustration just gets pointed at me.

Alzheimer's is why he didn't realize the help he needed. It's also why he couldn't organize plans for himself.

Does anyone have other little sayings or thoughts you use to get you through the days and nights? I continue to struggle. I know I am not alone.

I'd love hear your reassurances you say over and over to yourselves when you have a moment to share them with me.

Take care,

Many thanks,

jen 💜

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  • concerned_sister
    concerned_sister Member Posts: 425
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    Learned from another situation, but I use:

    It's a disease, not a personality defect.

  • psg712
    psg712 Member Posts: 384
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    You couldn't walk on a broken leg. She can't reason with a broken brain.

  • Sozokero
    Sozokero Member Posts: 4
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    Hi, I always tell myself, "It's the disease, don't take it personally."

  • mabelgirl
    mabelgirl Member Posts: 229
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    My mom constantly complains about living in FL (had to move her from VA , which she also complained about) so now I tell myself it’s not her geographic state but her state of mind.

    I also had a moment many months ago where I found one very perfect shell then shortly found one with missing area, I keep those as a visual reminder that my moms brain is the latter shell.

    I often call her Ms Dementia when she’s really on a roll.

  • jen ht
    jen ht Member Posts: 82
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    https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/216438#Comment_216438

    Thank you so much for sharing this.

  • jen ht
    jen ht Member Posts: 82
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    Good point. I appreciate you sharing this.

  • jen ht
    jen ht Member Posts: 82
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    So true. I am a slow learner in this one, but working on it. Thank you!

  • jen ht
    jen ht Member Posts: 82
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    Love these shell images. Thank you for this. I'll visualize this.

  • SusanB-dil
    SusanB-dil Member Posts: 1,149
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    Loving some of these...

    DH and I often use 'Cat'. To remind each other 'can't reason with a cat' because sometimes we actually find ourselves trying to reason, even though we know better. Or sometimes will simply ask 'have you seen the cat?'

    We often remind each other just that She can't help it, this isn't her.

    No, it sure isn't.

  • jen ht
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    https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/216539#Comment_216539

    Ooohhhh I like this one a lot! 🐾

    Thanks for sharing!

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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