Hi, all, My father in law has dementia and lives alone. The evaluation from senior services said that he's not bad enough to qualify for a memory care or assisted living facility. We disagree. My husband is his power of attorney and in complete charge of the finances. My father in law views scammers as friends calling so he would happily give them everything. We have taken his car, forwarded his mail, disabled his oven, signed him up for respite care 5 days a weekand
problem solve whatever comes up each day. Three nights a week, we have a person that helps him with supper, laundry, bathing and we take the other nights. Our safety concern is that he wants to walk everywhere. He has already gotten lost in the apartment complex and a neighbor helped him get to the right apartment. We got a tracker for him but it is on his key chain and I don't think he's remembering to take his keys with. He's also started going through other tenant mailboxes and taking their mail. We tell him that he's not getting mail but of course he doesn't remember. Even with all of the additional help, he will call us several times a day...the TV doesn't work, it's Christmas- where is everyone, he wants a girlfriend because it's been awhile since he "got any"...the list goes on which by what I've read on these boards is very common. We are doing what we can to keep him living on his own but we feel that he is progressing and we are not being heard. He cannot live with us as we work long hours at jobs we love and can't give up. My husband's siblings live in different states and basically don't want to deal with any of this. Any advice on how we can express our concerns better with Inclusa, the company that is helping us navigate through this.
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