Elopement and MC Assessment

One of the reasons to place someone in MC is because they wander. Therefore MCs are locked in units with keypads and alarms if the code is not entered.

I suppose it’s possible that they were asking to determine what hallway he needed to be moved into/ the level of needed care to decide the fee.

thisis a long story so be warned :)

My wife found her key fob, got into the car she hadn't driven in two years, and took off with the dog. I followed her in my truck and called 911. Sheriff's cars eventually boxed her in and stopped her.

She was taken by ambulance to the ER and treated for a severe UTI.

Incidentally, her delusions, hallucinations, and overall behavior had become noticeably more aggressive in the last two to three weeks.

Since last Wednesday, she's been in the hospital with a full-time sitter.

I contacted the assisted living facility to see if they had any openings. They informed me that a two-room suite was available in assisted living (not memory care) today.

I went there and paid a $6,500 monthly fee. They explained that additional charges would apply based on her specific care needs (rated 1, 2, 3, or 4, with 4 being the highest at an additional $1,600 per month). They also mentioned that their nurse would visit the hospital to assess her.

When I returned to finalize the arrangements, they not only returned my check for the suite but also the waitlist deposit. They stated that she required placement in a skilled nursing facility due to her flight risk and could not accept her.

I've been working with the hospital's caseworker to find a suitable place for her.

Today, I visited a nursing home. For $8,500 per month, they offered a shared room with a bathroom shared by another shared room, meaning four people would share the same bathroom. We sat down in the administrator's office, and they pulled up my wife's file. It listed her diagnosis as Lewy body dementia with flight risk. The administrator explained they couldn't accept her due to the flight risk and liability associated with such patients. They advised me to find a skilled nursing facility with a secure "lockdown" unit.

By the way, my wife can't use a TV remote, a cell phone, or a toaster. How on earth she can start and drive a car without crashing is beyond me!

I do understand though it is frustrating for you I’m sure. But if they are like my DH was, his elopement risk was constant. Any time of the day or night, if he was awake he was walking out the door or trying to get dressed to do so.

I was his personal 1 on 1 aide, to keep him from wandering and it didn’t always work. No facility is able to dedicate a full-time staffer to a single flight risk resident around the clock every shift. And the liability if they don’t, is unimaginable. And they aren’t supposed to chemically restrain our LOs, which would only have made my DH more of a fall risk while he was trying to elope. Because he was still going to attempt to go to work. No matter what.

In home hospice has been a godsend for us. And a revolving door of HHA’s I’m sorry to say, but I’m still hopeful this aide is the one that will stay, be reliable, and bring a little bit of joy to my DH when she can.

Home Health Aide. We are on our 3rd agency in as many years and I’ve lost count of how many aides we have tried (and trained, however briefly).

They don’t get paid enough so the bar is low for calling off work or just not delivering on all the agency promises. I’m to the point that if they show up, keep DH clean and safe, and don’t rob us I’ll be happy.

The “no call, no shows” almost put me over the edge a while back. I was trying to maintain a full-time job and it was super stressful not knowing if the caregiver would be there or not!

My late husband was an elopement risk. I couldn't afford to place him, so I changed the deadbolt locks on the doors so that you needed a key to get out. He didn't have the key. It worked. I kept him at home until he died. I did have a paid caregiver who came in a few hours a day several days a week so that I could get away.