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Type of humor that works with PWD

dancsfo
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Doctor gave me a handout on things that helps with brain health for PWD, and it included humor. I realize it depends on the person and stage, but I suspect that "juvenile" humor works with PWD, compared to clever things that may be hard to grasp. So this may include things like simple puns, knock knock jokes or even potty humor! Anyone have experience with humor that works with PWD? I'm trying different things, but will be happy to hear of ideas.

I found another post here with some jokes.

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  • fmb
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    I tried M1's jokes (from the other post) on my DH and they elicited an eye roll and a chuckle. DH and I have always liked silly puns, and even though he can't initiate the joke, he still gets them. It probably depends in part on what kind of humor the PWD enjoyed before dementia. Potty jokes would not go over well with my DH, for example.

  • SusanB-dil
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    edited September 11

    Interesting… MIL used to get a kick out of animal puns and funnies. Will try that again.

    How do you catch a unique rabbit? You 'neak up on them.

    The chicken crossed the road - ok, to get to the other side. Why did the fox cross the road? To prove to the possum and the skunk it could be done.

  • harshedbuzz
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    My dad must've been the outlier here. His sense of humor remained as acerbic as always well into the middle stages.

    Not long after dad was diagnosed, we had Thanksgiving at my niece's house. Said niece, 37, was newly dating a not-quite-30-year-old man after the death of the young man we all expected she'd marry. Dad was stuck on calling her a "cougar" which wasn't fun under the circumstances, and we called him out on it. He got stuck sitting next to me during dinner and when sad boyfriend ran down the stairs and dad deadpanned "It's so nice to have a child in the house, don't you think?"

    A year later I saw him exchange joke punchlines in Yiddish with his geripsych. FTR, dad was a lapsed Catholic.

    HB

  • HollyBerry
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    Self-deprecating humor is useful for shifting the mood when necessary. I can't think of an example right now but let them laugh at you - make something up if you have to.

  • GothicGremlin
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    I used humor a lot with my sister, and it usually worked, and worked well into stage 6.

    The self-deprecating humor was always good. For me I'd always joke about my hair and nails (always done in colors not found in nature). But old Monty Python jokes worked just as well, probably since she saw most of those episodes in the 1970s. "Peggy is demonstrating how not to be seen. But we know where she is." Always got a laugh. 🙂

    I think a key is to use something that is so familiar it's almost rote, but still funny.

  • dancsfo
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    edited September 13

    Makes me want to act out some Monty Python skits!

    I see your point. The goal is to get a chuckle, so if I repeat a joke and it works, then it's all fine. You can say they are an ideal audience if they laugh each time even with the same joke.

  • Pat6177
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    DH often laughs at some of the videos on America’s Funniest Videos. He never would have watched AFV before dementia. But the videos of the pets and little kids entertain both of us.

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