Stage 8 fast approaching

Petra2024 · September 14

I’m sitting in hospice days away from DH passing. I’ve been here for over 2 weeks staying in his room because of his special needs. Feeling I don’t want to go home afterwards, don’t want to sleep in our bed, or go to places we were always in together. I don’t want to stay with friends. I may go to a hotel for a few nights. I don’t know if it’s crazy to be this way, but it seems impossible for me to go home right away. I welcome any advice on how to handle this.

SDianeL · September 14

Is there family you can visit? If not, exactly as you describe. Allow yourself time to grieve. Praying for you. 🙏❤️

Petra2024 · September 14

@SDianeL I appreciate your kindness. Turns out that one of my nephews has just offered (without being asked) to fly here and help me through the first days. It’s such a gift and I am so thankful.

Mint · September 14

What a kind nephew and blessing.

Joe C. · September 14

Petra, I sorry you have reached this stage in the journey. I think your feeling are completely normal. I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts and plans.

Denise1847 · September 14

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/70621/stage-8-fast-approaching

Dear Petra, I am so sorry. I pray for you peace to come, for the day that you can be free of the pain you are experiencing. You are so very normal. My DH is still with me but not (the disease has taken him a while ago). I grieve now for what is to come and I am not even where you are. For whatever it is worth, I am trying to draw on the strength that got me through other painful losses. I got through them and I know I just have to be patient in the midst of this horrible experience. I hope this thought helps.

midge333 · September 14

My DW is still quite a way from stage 8 but I have begun to think about my life in that stage. I have thought about moving out of our bedroom after she dies because it won't seem right sleeping in our bed without her. She has been my girlfriend since I was 20 years old. It will be a tremendous void when she dies.

ghphotog · September 14

It's so difficult and we all try to cope the best way we know how. I hope it's peaceful and at some point after I also hope you can find your inspiration in life again.

Lkrielow99 · September 14

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/222786#Comment_222786

I feel the same, my DH went to ER and they transferred him to inpatient Psych unit to evaluate. Geriatric Psychiatrist said he needs to be moved to a facility. I piled his pillows on his side and trying to sleep. He is never coming home. I’m grieving. Take care midge333, you must be as worn out as I am. Much love.