Refusing help

Has she refused help? If she isn’t refusing and accepts you taking all safety measures I wouldn’t worry about the what ifs. Do you have legalities in order , especially DPOA for both financial and medical needs. If not that’s gonna be your first challenge unless you want the state to seek guardianship. Your priority will be to keep her safe in her remaining years and there could be a time you will need the authority to take steps she may not like. The DPOA gives you that authority.

As long as you have the DPOA she really doesn’t have a choice. Many here have suggested taking the pwd out for lunch then going to the AL or MC facility and kind of just dropping them off. Their room would be ready and staff would be prepared to guide them and help them. This sounds harsh, but if they are not safe in their current environment it’s necessary. My mom only very reluctantly agreed to go to AL and it was probably because she realized she had no other choice. I signed all the papers as her DPOA (she was not happy). I am of the mind set hope for the best prepare for the worst. So I can understand why you might want to consider this scenario. I hope this is not something you have to deal with.