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The other shoe has dropped

M1
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Well the inevitable happened this afternoon, she took another bad fall and has a spiral fracture of her right proximal humerus (dominant arm of course). We are in the ER and awaiting transfer to inpatient hospice, this is going to require a morphine drip and pray that it’s quick from here. There won’t be any coming back from this. She keeps apologizing for ruining my day.

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  • Joydean
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    M1, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your partner! Stay strong!

  • Chammer
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    My heart hurts for both of you. Praying for peace, calm and comfort during this next trying phase.

  • clarinetist
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    I know it’s expected, but it’s still a very hard time for you and your partner. My best wishes for you both as you go through this heartbreaking transition.

  • Jeanne C.
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    I'll be thinking of you both and wishing you peace and strength.

  • fmb
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    M1, I am so sorry. I am praying for you both. May God be merciful!

  • justbreathe2
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    M1 I feel for you. Thoughts and prayers for strength through this transition time.

  • Biggles
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    It never ceases to amaze me how we have so much love for each other; your DW is sorry for spoiling your day, so much joy and sadness in such a small statement. Our feelings for each other are so deep, it’s a horrible and despicable journey and the parting is almost unbearable. Have courage and strength, may peace be with you and your DW.

  • annie51
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    M1, we’re all here sending love and hugs and prayers as you go through this. You’ve been so strong!

  • psg712
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    Hugs and prayers. My heart is with you.

  • Quilting brings calm
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    M1, I’m so sorry that you and she have had this happen so suddenly. Hopefully the morphine controls her pain, and the in-patient hospice gives you the support you need. We are all thinking of you both.

  • GothicGremlin
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    M1, I'm so very sorry. I think your assessment is right - it's going to be hard, if not impossible to come back from this. I too hope for a painless transition.

    Thinking of you both ….

  • CatladyNW
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    M1. Wishing you strength and comfort in this difficult time. My thoughts are with you.

  • Dio
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    M1, so sorry you're both having to go through this. Wishing you a smooth outcome. We are here with you.

  • Karen711
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    M1- I'm so sorry for what you and your partner are going through. I wish you both as peaceful a process as is humanly possible. My thoughts are with you both!

    Karen

  • Phoenix1966
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    Holding you and your spouse in my thoughts tonight.

  • SDianeL
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    so sorry M1. Praying for a peaceful passing for her and for your strength and comfort. 🙏

  • tigersmom
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    M 1, I am so very sorry for the place you and your beloved partner now find yourselves. I am wishing you peace and the most pain-free transition possible. This part is the hardest.

  • Carl46
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    So sorry, M1.

  • JeriLynn66
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    I pray peace over both of you. This has been a long journey.

  • Joe C.
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    So sorry M1! My thoughts are with you both.

  • Anna2022
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    @M1, I am so very sorry and am sending strength and support for your journey ahead.

  • frankay
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    May peace be with both of you.

  • loveskitties
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    To love and be loved is a wonderful thing. It does not end.

    May your dear LO be pain free.

    Prayers for you both.

  • Marla13
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    How heartbreaking. I am so sorry.

  • harshedbuzz
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    I am so sorry for this recent development.

    The knowledge of such a scenario as inevitable does little to prepare the heart for such an outcome. May you find mercy and grace in the coming days.

    HB

  • ​fesk
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    Thoughts and prayers are with you.

  • mrahope
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    So sorry to hear this, @M1 . May both of you find some peace..

  • Caro_Lynne
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    M1, will be thinking and praying for you and your loved one. 💔

  • Beachfan
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    Oh, M1, I remember vividly when “the other shoe dropped” for me. It was a Monday morning and by Friday evening, DH was gone. Although his transition was quick, unexpected, and sad, in retrospect, it was a blessing for all of us. God’s will be done and may both of you find peace in the days to come. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • Kat63
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    So sorry M1, praying for pain free and peaceful transition for your loved one and strength and comfort for you.

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