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How often does this happen.???

my wife apologized for getting upset with me!!!

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  • cavenson
    cavenson Member Posts: 33
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    It happens; so appreciate it when it does. Usually when my DH (probably mid-stage 4) complains or spews criticisms, I do my best to deflect it. However, yesterday when I greeted him with a cheery good morning, he was standing at the sink vigorously scrubbing a frying pan. He angrily responded that I had not cleaned the frying pan well after cooking pork chops last night. Even though there may have been a few residual stains, I had spent about 10 minutes on that pan, and I thought it looked pretty good. By reflex, I responded as though I were not dealing with someone with AD—angrily and sarcastically I told him I was so sorry and that I would never use that pan again. He knew I was angry and came to apologize about an hour later.

  • charley0419
    charley0419 Member Posts: 368
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    it’s amazing how certain things they hear differently then what you say. It’s a shame you get to retire and now this.never know what’s coming next. But I always say “ it’s not her not same person at times”. Oh well guess we move on.

  • Windsock
    Windsock Member Posts: 25
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    Good morning! I can’t agree more, Charlie. Enjoy it when it happens. My DW gets upset with me because I don’t communicate! I try to gently say that we already talked about that and decided together to do whatever it was but in her confusion she just continues to be upset with me and my lack of communication. Usually a bowl of ice cream will help get her mind off of our tiff. :-)

  • DWTired
    DWTired Member Posts: 34
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    My DH does that too.. Sometimes they do have moments of clarity and are apologetic.

  • jsps139_
    jsps139_ Member Posts: 200
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    My DH has never apologized after yelling at me in 10 years, UNTIL two days ago. He went on a little rant about me moving his money out of his wallet (which I didn’t). He came out of the shower in a good mood, and said, “Sorry about how I acted before.” What?!?!?!?! I didn’t even think those words were possible anymore with his progression. It was soooooooo nice to hear. I did treasure the moment and all the warm feelings that went with it.

    Thanks for sharing Charlie - it brought back that wonderful feeling I had 2 days ago. ❤️

  • charley0419
    charley0419 Member Posts: 368
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    nice to hear from you where you been??? Haha

  • Windsock
    Windsock Member Posts: 25
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    we went on a Motorhome road trip! Together in a small space 24/7. Still had a good time through Oregon and California but no time to get on this site. :-)

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DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
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