New territory and things are changing

You maybe be able to find a podiatrist who does home visits depending on where you live. Often, these are the same docs who service area SNFs and memory care facilities. Google "in home podiatrists near me".

Will he let you soak his ft.? My Dh is the same way but he will go to podiatrist due to fact that his nail are so hard to cut.

I could have written this post. My DHs toenails looked like something from a fairy tale. Same with his beard. He absolutely refused to let me touch his feet, hands or beard. Lucky for me his niece came to visit and said she wanted to take him to a fancy barber as a gift to him. It worked! He went even though he kept saying the whole time that he was not going. Same with the toenails, she said she wanted to give him a spa day. He howled like she was killing him but he submitted and it got done. I was shocked that he did it. She has 2 small kids and I think she just treated him like a toddler and just ignored his protests and got it done as quickly as possible.

My DH will not shower so I have to use creative ways to keep him as clean as possible, using rinse free soap on a soft washcloth. For his feet, when he complains that his feet hurt, I suggest soaking them in warm water because “that always makes you feel better”. I have epsom salts poured and ready in the foot bath so it’s quick to fill it up. If he submits to that I try my best to cut his nails while they’re soft - he only lets me do that sometimes. But at least his feet get clean.
Shaving is also a challenge - the trimmers and shavers I’ve tried work ok but not as clean a shave as he used to get himself. Lately he won’t let our hair stylist cut his hair (we were both going to the same woman for years). So that’s become my new challenge. He let me do it once - the trimmer worked easy for the back and sides but I butchered the top although it did look better than having it hang in his eyes though.

It’s so tough seeing my handsome guy look more scruffy and unkempt than he ever would have before. 😞

Why oh why are they so uncooperative? 😂😂

It has been driving me crazy. My DH needs help with so many things, but then gets angry when I help him. I put his socks on the wrong feet 😳. I put his shoes on the wrong feet. And on and on.

I take my DH to the podiatrist every 9 weeks and she does a wonderful job on his toenails. Medicare pays for it (I’m assuming due to his Alzheimer’s diagnosis). I just tell him we’re going to the grocery and then go to the podiatrist, otherwise, he would refuse to go. I never tell him in advance. But the last time we were there, she noticed a sore in between one of his toes. She gave us a gel to put on it and advised us to keep it bandaged until it healed. That lasted one day, and he refused to allow me to dress it. He said his toes have been like that for 70 years and he would call and tell “the broad” that. (He has never spoken like that in his life).
Anyway, I have always said that I wanted to keep him home until the end, but my eyes have been opened with this last episode. If he refuses my help when he really needs it, that is not in his best interest. He NEVER gets mad at anyone but me. He laughs and talks with her while she trims his toenails. I always say … if he treated me half as nice as he treats everyone else, I’d be happy. This stupid disease robs them and us of our sanity every single day.

Seroquel helped for awhile, but maybe it’s time for another dosage increase????