How often do you visit your LO in Memory Care?

I am sure there is no routine or common visiting schedule. Someone recently asked me how often I visit my mom, and I told them about once a week. In reality, it is less than that. I guess I thought if I told them the honest truth, I would sound like a horrible person.

Truth be told, I could visit my mom every single day and would always see something that I could tend to even if small aspects such as folding and organizing clothes or replacing a light bulb in a bedside lamp.

Mom and dad moved to the AL section of the facility one year ago. Dad died four months later, and mom moved to MC. My goal in visiting is just to make sure she is being treated appropriately and staff know she has family checking on her. I actually have no legal accountability for her though because my sister took over as DPOA when dad died. So, she is responsible for all financial and medical aspects. Two years ago, my parents made her Executor of their Will and Trustee Successor. Literally, she is the single go-to.

I do not speak to my sister, so I have no idea how frequently she visits. I never see any signs of her having been at my mom's room because I see do not see any new photos of her family, no new clothes have been purchased, and old pictures that were hanging on the wall in the ALF section of her apartment with dad have been piled up in a corner in her room never placed on the wall. Mom's room is now rather sparce and sort of cold (not in temperature). A couple months ago, I noticed mom did not have any Depends, did not have any toothpaste, and her shower gel had been watered down to barely even being soapy. She also did not have a shower puff or washcloth in the shower to be able to appropriately bathe.

I did see adult diapers stacked in the bathroom, but mom asked me to please order her Depends instead because she likes them better. I was a bit concerned. I then asked to speak to the Memory Care Director about mom's needs for these ADLs, and told her to contact my sister who has access to the financials to be able to place these things on an Auto-Ship. The Director said she would. I recorded the discussion in case this becomes a case of neglect - but I do not think it is at this point.

I am just wondering how often does anyone visit, and what exactly do you do when you are there?

Thanks.