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otfgirl750
otfgirl750 Member Posts: 15
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has anyone else experienced their LO slowly wanting to remove all family pictures from their room? I don’t know if they upset her, if she doesn’t recognize the faces or what it is but we remove as she asks.

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  • harshedbuzz
    harshedbuzz Member Posts: 5,319
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    @otfgirl750

    It could be that she doesn't recall who the people are in the context of a photograph. Some PWD go so far as to destroy or deface such pictures for that reason. You're wise to remove them.

    Sometimes PWD, especially during the adjustment to MC, do this as a kind of "packing to go home" behavior.

    We removed 2 pictures of people from dad's room. One was his favorite picture of my mom— another shopping resident kept taking it and we didn't want to lose it. The other was a very large (almost life-size/sister worked at a photography studio, and it had been a display piece) portrait of my sister and me— he sometimes had hallucinations around it which upset him.

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  • otfgirl750
    otfgirl750 Member Posts: 15
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    i have heard about the large picture issue with hallucinations before which makes so much sense to me. I have even noticed that her small angel statue has been turned so it doesn’t face her. She did destroy some of the pictures of us kids on a bad day which was heartbreaking. It is so sad to watch her room become less and less personal but I know it doesn’t feel that way to her. Thank you for all of your advice!

  • CaliforniaGirl-1
    CaliforniaGirl-1 Member Posts: 150
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    My LO decided that the pictures of me were pictures of her and ripped or defaced the pictures of her if there were pictures of her with other people. When we do a FaceTime she becomes fixated on the image of her because she doesn't know who that is. My LO is quite elderly and of course unaware of her age. Her image of herself is a much younger woman.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 1,735
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    my DH would throw pictures in the trash. I think he thought he was putting them away. The nurse took them and put them in the shadow box outside his room. It wasn’t only pictures he did that to. Anything in his room even his glasses.

  • Pmmommie
    Pmmommie Member Posts: 7
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    I have the opposite problem kinda. Any "photos" that come in the mail with his special mailings, Dad sits them out or slides them in the framework of his china cabinet. He's even gone so far as to dig up a picture frame and just sit it in it. He honestly has a picture of "Pete" who served in World War !! on his window shelf. He even asked on of his best friends to get his a frame for his buddy from his platoon. I have given up making a Family wall at this point.

  • psg712
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    My mom went through a phase where she would turn all her framed family photos face down on her dresser. She took one photo off the wall and put it on the floor. She hasn't done that for a while now, although I do sometimes find the photos rearranged on the dresser as if she is shuffling them around. She can't identify the people in them by name. Sometimes she points at photos of people who are now deceased (her parents or husband) and says she hasn't seen them in a while.

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