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Here's a new one I wasn't ready for
Dad was diagnosed with VD and onsight AZ almost 4 years ago. He has been in AL for the past 6 months awaiting "home renovations" and plans to move into the home when finished (depending on the day and time of course as it changes daily for him). He's doing really well and 99% of the time he absolutely loves it and the…
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Continuous Bathroom Visits
So, I'd like to find out why my Mom has to continously use the restroom. She will ask to go several times before we get ready to leave somewhere and she does the same thing constantly when we're just at home. I've heard that it's anxiety/fear or boredom and sitting on the toilet is "comforting" to her. I don't believe she…
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Mom Won’t Stop Staring Out the Door
This is kind of a funny one, but I don’t know what to do about it. My mom has Alzheimer’s disease (moderate stage), and she loves looking outside through our windows and door. The problem is is that we have a shared driveway, so there’s usually people walking past our door. To be honest I personally would feel kinda…
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Where to go if Long-Term Memory Care will not accept my sister's combative behavior?
My sister with EOAD has been in a Geriatric Psych unit for a month now. She was removed from her Assisted Living Memory Care facility after only a week for aggressive and combative behavior. During an incident she was sent to the ER where after that she was admitted to the Geriatric Psych unit to develop a medication and…
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Feeds cat 4-8 times a day
My mother has one cat. Sometimes she thinks there are more that pop by. But when prompted, she catches herself and realizes there is only one cat. Regardless of the number of cats that she perceives, she overfeed them. She sets out 4-8 bowls filled with wet food per day. This creates a bad situation as most of it rots, or…
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So many questions...
Hello. My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer's on August 6. The Neurologist didn't mention a stage but our GP said it's moderate to severe. His has trouble speaking, he can't find words. His short term memory is severely impacted. Normally an optimist, he's become severely depressed. He's now on Namenda, Rexulti &…
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From Maybe to Reality 4
Family had a big birthday party for DH (ALZ). I was afraid that it would be too much for him but he had the time of his life and at age 90, he danced every dance. The only think that I noticed was when 2 of the grandsons came over to the house before the party and spent time alone with him. He was telling some of his life…
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Father keeps asking where my mother is...
I'm sure this has been addressed many times previously, but I just signed up today. So I'll ask. I moved my 85-year-old parents into a personal care facility 4 months ago. My mother needed the extra care, but my father was fine even though he was in the throes of dementia. My mother passed away after 3 weeks in the…
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Angery Mother
I’m having major problems with my mom. Within the last four weeks if she doesn’t get her way, she will call me names not the nice ones either. I also moved in with her two years ago when she was first diagnosed with dementia she will also tell me that I need to move out. If she’s not getting her way. We have an appointment…
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GLP-1's in Demetia Patients
Hello Everyone, Itws been quite a while since I"ve posted and been around. I have some things I'd like some advice on from our community. My Dad started this journey about 2 years ago and it has only become more complex and complicated. He has a myriad of health issues so I wont get into all of them, but with his Demetia…
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Really Need Help With My Mom and Dad, Could This be Dementia? Dad’s Behavior
Hi, I’m 49 and living with both of my aging parents. My dad is almost 80 and has been obsessively bringing up my mom’s past—accusing, interrogating, then apologizing and repeating it again. It started suddenly in early May. He has also: Forgotten recent events or where he placed items Told the same old stories repeatedly…
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I don’t know what to do!!
My mother will be 70 years old and my sister and I started seeing changes happening with my mom. We thought it was because my our brother passed away at age 38 and threw my mom in a depression. But it’s been four years and my mother‘s behavior is scaring us. She started hearing things seeing things tasting things smelling…
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Memory Care transition
Well it has been 2.5 weeks since my DH has been in memory care. Prior to this, he spent 3.5 weeks in the hospital. The first couple of days he was there, I literally slept like a log. My bed didn't even look like i had moved a muscle. But as the days wear on I'm finding my big old house so quiet. It's sad. The facility is…
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Guardianship
I am the middle child, and the only girl. My mom has appointed me POA for both health and financial. Of course there has to one sibling that will not play by the rules, my oldest brother. He has recently purchased a vehicle in my mothers name. She didn't know what the heck was going on when I asked her about it and neither…
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Thinks she is in a new room at MC
Having her room moved has been a theme with mom for a while (even in AL) but does anyone know why after I get her a shower, she routinely thinks we are now in a different room? It is like going in the shower changes her whole perspective.
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Sudden mental changes
My spouse (70) was recently retested using the MMSE test, her score went from 19 a year ago to 11. Over the past 6 weeks we have experienced significant shifts in personality and overall happiness. Before very generous, she has become very me/mine focused. She does recognize that we are married (48 years), last night…
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Removing pictures
has anyone else experienced their LO slowly wanting to remove all family pictures from their room? I don’t know if they upset her, if she doesn’t recognize the faces or what it is but we remove as she asks.
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I’m Scared and Alone
My dad was diagnosed with MD about a year ago. When mom was alive (she passed from cancer about 3 years ago) she was already saying dad was headed down this path although he wasn’t diagnosed. I saw it too. I noticed dad was getting worse a little bit at a time. But still, at least I thought, was doing pretty well. A week…
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How to respond when DH does this
We have been married 33 years. DH has anger attacks. There has been never any talk about leaving. We have been through even his helicopter accident. Saying this there has been some recent anger episodes where it is late at night or early morning, he comes in yelling “If you are so unhappy then leave. Just go! Do you want…
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Seeking Advice: Managing Toilets with Dementia Behaviors
My father has late-stage dementia and is exhibiting challenging behaviors that are making it difficult to maintain our home. He’s been pouring food down the toilets, which has caused clogs and damage. He also removed the bolts from one toilet, breaking the wax seal, and it’s now unusable. He’s fixated on guarding the…
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Seizures? EEG Negative
Hi all--I'm Lia and new to this discussion group. My mother has moderate/advanced Alzheimer's and this spring she started having what seem like very short (abt 30 second?) seizures. She starts breathing hard, her eyes open really wide/roll back, her head slumps forward, she'll usually cry out that she's going to fall, and…
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Need Your Input Please
My name is Denise. I am posting this because I really need input for what I am experiencing. My husband is doing what I understand is vocal verbalizing. It has become increasingly loud and more frequent. We often go out with friends as he enjoys that. Unfortunately, it has become almost unbearable for my friends to deal…
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Help and insight
Hi. I apologize if this seems off or redundant, I’m new to a lot of this. My grandfather has Alzheimer’s. It’s pretty bad. My mom lives with him to help and I’m over as much as I can. But lately he’s aggressive and wants to go home. Stating this is not his home. It’s definitely in the sundowners range because it’s usually…
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Breathing a little easier
I am breathing a sigh of relief for a change. A month ago I placed my husband in a very small ALF only housing up to 7 residents. Right now they have 4. I placed him after a stay in Geri Psych. Today I was told he will be getting physical therapy and will be attending an adult day care a couple times a week. This will keep…
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Mom is constantly angry with my sister
My Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimers in the fall of 2022. She is understandably having a very hard time with the loss of her financial independence and is constantly accusing my sister of controlling her. We have POA and I tell her we're making the decisions together, but her anger is focused on my sister, who is the…
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Toddler comparison
This is a rant. I’ve been caring for my DH who has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s nearly 3 years ago which was at least 2 years after I had been begging for a diagnosis. When someone compares caring for a spouse with Alzheimer’s is like caring for a toddler I want to scream. It is such a dismissive comment for the person…
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DW Waking up 3 AM
First time on this Forum. Some background my wife was diagnosed with EO Alzheimer when she was 58. Now 6 years later she has lost her ability to communicate, self care, and starting to have trouble walking. I am her sole caregiver (married 38 yr) and basically have to do everything like feeding, bathing, dressing.and…
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New Alzheimers Diagnosis for 85 YO Dad
Looking for behaviors or actions that are "normal" ALZ behaviors and others to bring to attention to his Primary Care Doctor
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Mom has auditory hallucinations need help
My 96 year old mom has alzheimers and recently has been having auditory hallucinations - she hears the same part of a song over and over ( i can't id the song). this started about 6 weeks ago for 1 day, then again a month later the 14 days later and then 4 days later. it really upsets her. she thinks its coming from a…