Angry

my DH does't feel so dear to me. He was in a Donanemab trial for 18 mos. just seemed to delay the inevitable. He is mid-stage, not driving and lately has been watching TV non-stop and napping. I think he is depressed and could benefit from behavioral health evaluation but he denies. This weekend we went out for breakfast. Even though calm and delicious he just wanted to go home. Then I thought a movie, too loud and he came home 6p and went to the basement for a nap. I am trying to hang on to my life. He expects me to do everything. He felt I interrupted his tv show when I gave him a heads up we were leaving for the movie. His Dx was going on 3 yrs. He doesn't wander, does ride his e-bike, 1x every 2 weeks. He is simmering and I am so sad. He seems to smile for strangers not me. I miss what we had, we've been together 48 yr.s married 44, he's 74 I'm 71.

In my case with my DW if I say anything I wished I hadn't she usually forgets right away and sometimes within seconds - I guess if there is a "good" part of this disease this might be an example.

you are not alone in feeling angry. My DH is not who he used to be. My days are spent in sadness, mourning the loss, but he’s still there and looks the same. I think there is sooo much that happens as Alz progresses, so unpredictable. It’s easy for me to become angry because I used to become angry/annoyed/irritated at my husband on occasion in the past. So I can “forget” that he is a person with Alz, not himself, but he looks the same… Hope that makes sense.

Besides, it is impossible to keep it together at all times. We’re human. We try our best. That’s all we can do with this awful experience. Take care of yourself, find help so you can be free for a bit. Keep in touch with those that understand, here.

look for the book “My Life Rearranged Musings of an Alzheimer’s Caregiver” by Susan G Miller. Author writes from own experiences, from caregivers viewpoint. Very helpful.

I am brand new at this. My DW may or may not have ES. She won't go to a doctor for almost any reason. She won't let me talk to her about possible cognitive decline because she is terrified of having Alz. Her mother died of Alz at the age of 86. My DW is 75. She doesn't say that, I just know. She also had two siblings die with dementia. My DW is the youngest of 7 children and the only one left. The rest died at earlier ages of unrelated reasons. I also have anger issues. I liked what you posted. I am new to social media or whatever you call this. My DW knows nothing about what I'm doing with this secret phone. Thank you. I have to go now

so sorry you are going through this. Talk to his doctor. There are medications they can give him for hallucinations and delusions and anxiety. Ask if there is a Social Worker or Case Manager you can speak to. Unfortunately unless you qualify for Medicaid or a Medicaid waiver, memory care is self pay. Each state administers Medicaid. You could talk to an elder care attorney to see what options there are. Also call the Alzheimer’s toll free number at the top of the main page. Also contact your county Agency on Aging. They may be able to provide resources.