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She is gone

Crushed
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My lovely, wonderful, brilliant, public spirited wife died yesterday. She was 73. and had had Alzheimer's for 15 years. I described our journey in these pages and the end was peaceful. I held her hand as her breathing went shallower and shallower and finally stopped . Our two daughters were with us. She was as lovely as ever. Thank you all for being with us on this road

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  • Bridge4
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    Crushed, I am so sorry that you and your family had to travel this road for so long, but glad that your wife has finally been freed from the ravages of this disease. I have followed your story since joining this site a few years ago, and know the added pain when remembering how brilliant and talented our loved ones were before the disease grabbed hold of them. May you and your daughters find peace and joy in the loving memories of your wife and their mother.

  • JeriLynn66
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    Crushed, I am so sorry for your loss. May your lovely wife rest in peace as you and your daughters remember her with love. Peace be with you.

  • White Crane
    White Crane Member Posts: 1,056
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    Crushed, my heart goes out to you and your daughters. May you find peace in the coming days knowing your lovely wife is at rest. I have followed your posts over the last several years and know how much you loved her.

  • Biggles
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    My thoughts are with you and your family. I too have followed your posts for the last 18 months. I wish you peace.

  • A. Marie
    A. Marie Member Posts: 128
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    I'm so sorry for your and your family's loss, Crushed. Yours were among the comments I always looked for here, because of your great love for your wife and for the life you had together. Pax vobiscum.

  • LJCHR
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    So sorry for your loss. May you find strength and healing.

  • Mint
    Mint Member Posts: 3,161
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    Wishing you comfort and peace during this difficult time.

  • charley0419
    charley0419 Member Posts: 492
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    my she RIP

  • Marla13
    Marla13 Member Posts: 41
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    So sorry for your loss. She has peace now. Please be kind to yourself.

  • cdgbdr
    cdgbdr Member Posts: 243
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    I am sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself and your daughters.

  • Quilting brings calm
    Quilting brings calm Member Posts: 2,893
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    Crushed, I am so sorry for your loss. I’m so sorry that your wife, you, and your family had to endure this terrible disease for 15 years. I know how much you loved her. She is at peace now. You’ve taken excellent care of her all this time and I hope you know that in your heart.

  • Beachfan
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    Crushed, I am sorry. Such a long and heartbreaking journey you have traveled with your DW and family. Wishing you peace and comfort in the days, months, and years ahead. It gets easier, but the heartache never goes away. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • JulietteBee
    JulietteBee Member Posts: 215
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    https://alzconnected.org/discussion/73627/she-is-gone

    My deepest condolence to you and your family. I pray that God will cradle you all in His mighty arms while you grieve this devastating loss. God bless!🙏🏽

  • BethL
    BethL Member Posts: 1,103
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    I'm so sorry for your loss.

  • midge333
    midge333 Member Posts: 565
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    A long journey. I am sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself.

  • easy23
    easy23 Member Posts: 295
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    Sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your story with us!

  • tigersmom
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    Crushed, i am so sorry for the loss of your dear wife. Your eloquent posts brought her vividly to life here, and I feel like I got such a clear picture of the wonderful woman she was. I am happy that she is finally at peace, and hope that in time, that will come for you, too.

  • CampCarol
    CampCarol Member Posts: 236
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    My sincere condolences on the loss of your DW. You have been there for her every step of the way, and I know you did your absolute best to ensure she was loved, safe and warm. Sending thoughts and prayers your way as you transition to Stage 8. Be kind to yourself!

  • Jazzma
    Jazzma Member Posts: 210
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    Crushed, I echo all of the other comments about how much you cared for your wife and how vividly you described her. For me, entering Stage 8 was — and still is — a whole new type of grief that took me by surprise. After all the years of grieving I thought maybe it would just be a relief, but instead it's a deep and sharp sorrow for what my DH was when he was well. Please keep in touch and find comfort and support.

  • Palmetto Peg
    Palmetto Peg Member Posts: 288
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    Crushed, yours was one of the first voices who helped me when I began posting here. Your love for your wife always shone through every post. I'm sorry for your loss, but also know you can find peace now. May her memory be a blessing.

  • Ed1937
    Ed1937 Member Posts: 5,105
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    Crushed, I'm sorry. I know it's difficult for quite some time being in stage 8, and I wish you well.

  • Vitruvius
    Vitruvius Member Posts: 396
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    Pease and strength in Stage 8.

  • Chammer
    Chammer Member Posts: 199
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    @Crushed I am sorry for your loss. You always described your wife in such an eloquent and passionate way. I pray healing for you and your daughters now and in the future.

  • Iris L.
    Iris L. Member Posts: 4,894
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    Please accept my condolences in the loss of your dear wife.

    Thank you for sharing your journey with us.

    Iris

  • ronda b
    ronda b Member Posts: 249
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    So sorry you have had to go through such a journey. Glad you were with your beautiful wife at the very end. Condolences to you and your daughters. May you guys find peace as she has.

  • harshedbuzz
    harshedbuzz Member Posts: 5,611
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    Crushed.

    I am sorry for all of the losses that led to this end. Thank you for sharing this dear and brilliant woman with us here.

    HB

  • trottingalong
    trottingalong Member Posts: 723
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    https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/249196#Comment_249196

    beautifully said

  • JJ401
    JJ401 Member Posts: 366
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    It was "the long goodbye", but no matter how long, none of us are prepared for the emotions that arise when they leave us. Her memory will always be a blessing.

  • Dio
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    Crushed, my condolences to you and your family! It's been such a long hard journey for you and your wife. You both fought it brilliantly and courageously. When I joined this group, your postings were among the first to help me through my darkest days. Thanks for sharing your journey with us. Please take care of yourself and visit us from time to time, if you wish. I miss, and very much envy, the "old" timers who have moved on.

  • ladyzetta
    ladyzetta Member Posts: 1,260
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    Dear Crushed. Thank you for being here, I have learned so much from your postings. You loved and cared for your DW, with such compassion, may she rest in peace. You and your family are in my prayers. Please get some rest and take care of yourself. Hugs Zetta

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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