destructive treatment from my wife's daughter

We had a similar experience when a relative had Alzheimer’s. The relative that was blocked had power of attorney and all legal documents for care. An attorney was hired, he went to court, and won. Your wife has diminished capacity and cannot make decisions. Based on my experience, her daughter can not cut off your contact with your wife. I am sorry you are going through this.

I would seek the advice of an attorney. We had a member here whose child helped her husband to divorce her.

gonesail-

Get an elder law attorney who litigates as an active part of their practice asap. I hope you all are in the same state. Would make it simpler.

You need to act fast to keep the daughter from raiding and retitling the assets you both own ,separate or together. And especially to be sure your wife is getting best care.

Darkest reason for the dgtr's action - to get at the assets ASAP. Nicest view - she believes the tales your wife is telling and wants to "keep your wife safe" . Yet, she didn't talk to you , she called a lawyer.

Your wife deserves the best care possible- staying at home maybe too much for either of you- stressful for you and she may benefit from a structured home. Even simple things like USPS mail is dicey with her holding a POA . I'd normally suggest get your financial mail forwarded to a joint PO box but who currently has authority for your wife with freshly minted POA out there?

I'm not a lawyer but first thing will be to have the documents she obtained evaluated. See your lawyer before you approach the daughter, keep notes of any phone calls.

Sadly, it is not uncommon for the PWD to turn against the person closest to them . Others with less pure motives can use that to jump in .

The longer you wait the more costly it will be to untangle whatever the daughter is doing. An experienced lawyer maybe able to get the dgtr and her lawyer to negotiate and stay out of court.

Ideally you can get the POA voided right off the bat because if unchallenged the dgtr maybe able to use your wife's and your joint assets to support her side , as your wife's rep, in a legal fight. So you'd be funding both sides.

I'm really sorry this is happening to you both. Please take steps to protect your assets and assure good care for your wife.

Do not walk away. This is your wife. Would she walk away from you if the tables were turned? This disease robs them of everything. The people we love slowly slip away. In the end, you have to live with your decisions. No regrets. Her daughters don’t understand anything about this disease or that their mother is not their mother anymore. They should read the posts here. Consult an attorney.