What's the one thing that gets to you the most

Newbie here (first post!), a lot of helpful and insightful info on these forums, thank you all for sharing your experiences. Sorry for long post but here goes:

My DW is in early stage here (wife diagnosed in early Dec by PCP with MCI after one-page "mini mental state exam" for which her doc then gave her several neuro MD referrals. I and our adult children and a few friends have noticed symptoms for + two years but the memory and cognitive signs have gotten significantly worse over the last six months. She is still pretty self-sufficient with ADL's but I've taken over bill paying, trip planning and driving. She's really struggling lately using her cell phone/ iPad/ laptop.

The biggest challenges I've had so far are 1) her anosognosia ("no need to go to neuro doc! I'm perfectly fine"!) and 2) my own difficulties in reacting negatively/ judgmental/ critical/ condescending when I get frustrated with her new struggling behaviors or being at a loss of what to do when she's hyper emotional/ anxious/ angry/ reactive. Also the roller coaster ride of one day her saying "yeh, maybe I should go get checked out" followed the next day be a total 180 change of mind….frustrating!!!!

Her daughter recently shared her concerns for her mother which seemed to flip a switch, she talked to me the next day about wanting to go consult with a neuro doc for further testing/ diagnosis. I quickly made some calls/ emails to schedule something… 🤞….not looking forward to if/ when she refuses to go….

Concerning my own behavioral problems, I've started to attend a local caregiver/ spouse support group and am already getting some helpful feedback/ tips. I'm also researching/ reading info for caregivers. Like everyone else here, I'm human and will likely make mistakes and occasionally behave poorly, I need to forgive myself, try to adjust and move forward supporting my DW the best I can.

I lost my mother, my brother and my aunt to AD and have to work at not assuming my DW is headed down the same path and/ or at the same rate of progression.
thanks for reading/ listening.

Thank you CindyBum for the tip. I don't think things have progressed to a point where that would work today. In a few months, who knows? "Rate of progression " is one of the variables that I'm learning is impossible to predict with pre-dementia/ dementia. Best to enjoy each day we're together and still relating as husband & wife and don't over-stress/ over-obsess about what might be ahead?

Not being able to have a casual conversation with DH. It was becoming too stressful for him to try and figure out what I was saying and I had to explain the simplest things in different ways until he either figured it out or he gave up.