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Mariavp53
Mariavp53 Member Posts: 1 Member
Hi. Just signed up. My first time on here. Mom was just diagnosed with Alzheimers. I am not sure what my steps are to get her everything she needs and where I can obtain from a financial point and medical care (medicaid??, walker, assistance) She lives alone and is in early to mid stage. Any suggestions? We live in NY. Are there such things as advocates that help with the steps and where to start?

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  • H1235
    H1235 Member Posts: 2,015
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    Welcome. Sorry you need to be here. One of the most important things you should do is see a lawyer about a DPOA, medical poa, will, and living will. Do not wait if this has not been done. It’s very important. As far a a walker I think Medicare will cover it if there is a doctor prescription. It’s usually not long after diagnosis that she will not be safe to live alone. 24/7 in-home care is very expensive and usually not covered by Medicaid or Medicare. You might be able to get her a bit of help by contacting your local commission on aging. They can at least tell you what services are available and who to contact. If a facility is in the the future plan you should keep in mind that there can be a waiting list. Qualifications and what is covered by Medicaid varies by state and it can be complicated. This is something you might want to talk about with a lawyer. I would recommend you keep a very close eye on her. It’s easy to assume that our loved ones are capable of things only to find out later they are not. For example, I took mom to the dentist every 6 months and she got a new toothbrush. When I moved her I found a bunch of new toothbrushes. She had not swapped out her toothbrush in a very long time. She appeared to be doing her own laundry, but then I noticed she had run the washer without putting clothes in it. Im sure she occasionally actually remembered to put the clothes in, but she was clearly not as capable as I thought. Finances are one of the first things a pwd is likely to have problems with. Keep a close eye on things (or just take things over, with the DPOA). She is very vulnerable to scams and bad decisions. I will attach a few resources that might be helpful.

    https://www.medicaidplanningassistance.org/medicaid-eligibility-income-chart/

    https://www.consumerfinance.gov/consumer-tools/managing-someone-elses-money/

  • helpingdaughter26
    helpingdaughter26 Member Posts: 8
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    I would contact your local Area Agency on Aging. They can walk you through everything you might be looking for. Also, look into PACE or GUIDE program if offered in your state. You can also ask your primary care doctor if they have any social workers or care managers they work with to help. Good luck ❤️

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
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AL = Assisted Living
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