Anger problems

keywest
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in I Am Living With Alzheimer's or Other Dementia

do anger issues always come with dementia? I feel so bad- husband getting angry at the dog over nothing- this morning hes on the phone yelling at soliciters.- calling them back over and over to harass them . I cant say anything to him he will blow up at me

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  • jaycey
    jaycey Member Posts: 44
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    I have noticed increased anger in myself since diagnosis - but I wouldn't be able to say whether it's a direct symptom of the illness (I think it's more often associated with fronto-termporal dementia than Alzheimer's). For me, I think that the anger comes from my sense of injustice that I have the illness, that it is wrecking my life, that I was diagnosed relatively young and this means I can't predict what my old age will look like, or even when I'll stop being able to do the things that make me me. . . Perhaps you could talk to your husband about this, or maybe see if he'd be willing to see a therapist.

  • Doulton
    Doulton Member Posts: 5
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    I am a newly diagonsed dementia patient. Actually I've been dementing for a few years, but now it's really serious. I fail to remember many things. I can recall 1960 vividly but not 2025, 'My husband is my main caretaker. The problem is that he has explosive intermittent anger and starts screaming, shouting, and insulting me with little to no provocation. He has ALWAYS been this way. I went for 49 years accepting it without challenging it. But then about 7 years ago he started to intensify his anger. He had a majojr stroke in 1993 and spent $142,000. buying himself goodies. The problem is that they all went on credit cards and after a few years the ineviitable happened: we went bankrupt. In 1990 at age 40 I started to investigage assisted living because I knew that I could save a lot of money —-maybe up to a million dollars, the way I was going. But he stole all the money. And now he is very angry at me.

    I am dementing and this makes me runimate something awful. Just a couple of weeks ago I was trying to help him to bed and he keeled over, fell down, and took me down with him. So I worry that he loves to stay up late wacthing tv

    So tonightat 12"10 am I want to check on him andhestarted screamingthat I was harassing him. I split the scenebut now I am fearful andruminative.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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