How to answer, "Why are you here?"

After a number of failed attempts at why am I here I generally deflect with a big smile, a kiss on the lips if we are physically close together and I say “to make you a cup of coffee, or tea, or a toasted sandwich” and slip into ..shall I make a toasted cheese. It’s important to be on the same wave length as your DO you can use ‘so I can vacuum the floor, or make the bed, or play some music. Whatever it takes. It’s emotionally exhausting but for me it works.

The question from DW more often is "Who are you and why are you here?" I respond with a caress to her back and say " I am your husband and I am here to care for you. to love you and protect you." This usually works along with strong eye contact. if not then I just try a little later.

This occurrence is frustrating, but we do what we have to do to keep that critical personal contact.