How do you transition to "Depends" without a battle?

replace them and see. Tell her they are the latest in special underwear. Even get you some if you have to and fib to her. Try in the morning when she may be more receptive.

Not taking a shower is part of of this disease . Get some rinseless disposable cloths and give her a G I wash or hit and miss.

This was my experience. DW was having urinary incontinence issues once every few weeks. Then, all of a sudden, it switched and it became far more regular. When I realized what was going on, I just gave her the depends when getting her out of wet clothes. Fortunately she hated being in wet clothes. She was not really resistant to wearing them, it was more a sense of sadness. My guess is that she was aware of what was happening and why she needed to wear them. I have adjust our routine at home and now accidents are far less frequent (one every week or two). She sometimes puts them on without a fuss but other times she refuses. Like everything else, I try to learn what are the good conditions for success and when to just back off and let her have her way.

I have a female companion care that comes in three or four days a week. I think she has had more success with compliance with the regular changing of DW's depends. She can be more patient than I am and I think being the same gender helps.

When my sister's incontinence first started, we both referred to Depends as the "other underwear." I'd casually ask her if she wanted to try the "other underwear", and she was okay to try it out. I made it all sound like a normal thing. In the beginning she didn't need something that would hold a lot of liquid, so I was able to ease her into them with a brand that looks kind of like regular underwear. As time went on, I did what @jgreen and @BPS did - I slowly replaced her underwear with Depends - and we never talked about it. It worked pretty well.