Anosognosia, suggestions?

It's so hard. Maybe tell her that is the initial protocol for all residents and they just need to make sure they have all the info they need to assist her, especially in an emergency. There are some people that need more help than she does and that they need more attention, even though she may not right now. It's not a nursing home but they need to monitor her health, wellness and safety. My mom's old apartment had people living there with all different challenges (some/most should not have been living independently) so when my mom says something about being with "old" people I gently remind her that all of the other residents used to have lots of health issues and how lucky she is to have help at her disposal now. I'm sure you are but try to focus on the positives… organizing her room the way she likes it, go over the meals offered and activities/goings on that she may enjoy.

I’m new to all this, my In-Laws are still in moderate stage & doing relatively well given they can afford 24-hour caregivers (though we have to constantly remind them of why the cargivers have to be there for 24 hours/7 days a week & I don’t blame them for worrying because it costs $450k per year!)

I just want to share my reaction, hoping it may help spark ideas in some small way.

That situation DOES sound depressing given the vast majority of residents sound far worse than she, & frankly they probably don’t belong in AL but can’t afford an adequate care home.

You will probably hate this suggestion, as I know it would necessitate a lot of factors, but could you possibly find an AL where more of the residents are somewhat active and able to interact socially? I can understand why she would want to live with peers who are in similar condition, regardless of her diagnosis.

I realize her condition can change rapidly but from her perspective, I would be very depressed by all that as well.

Is she on a medication to help with her depression or agitation or any of the things that go with her diagnosis? She may need to try other medication to see if it can be more effective.

Legal avenues may make the most sense but can be time consuming, expensive, & difficult finding the right attorney. We used Yelp & it really helped because of the Reviews.

Can her doctor provide any support? Social Workers? It sounds like other family members should be encouraged to get involved (but not guilted), although I understand that the most you can do is ask, maybe for specific tasks as needed, whatever compliance from other family members is possible. If you ask for help in ways that they feel are do-able & not too demanding, they are more likely to help, eapecially if you present it as helping you (not the loved ones in need of the actual help.)

People seem to shy away from getting involved bc they’re afraid of getting dragged into an on-goong, overwhelming situation, but might be willing to participate in small ways.

I wish you luck and we are also frustrated with the difficulties of trying to care for loved ones who are unable to behave logically.

I think you need support from the community but I’m new to this myself ao I don’t really know of the best resources.

Support Groups in person if possible can be very informative. Sime even meet in the evening, since you work full time. But they are usually “drop in” whenever you can make it, & I found that I formed relationships with others (regarding an entirely different issue) & it helped me in ways I could never have imagined. I got through it in much better shape because of my support groups (one especially, in particular.)