A New Level of Loneliness

I have become very cynical. My wife was diagnosed 10 years ago and the whole family knew it, so when someone calls me now my first thought is why now. We have kids that live close but haven't stayed in contact and our relationship is forever changed. I still would do whatever I could for them, but I now understand that it is a one way relationship and I don't think it will ever be what I once thought it was.

My daughter has not talked to me in more than 5 years. She blames me for her mom getting dimentia. It’s been very difficult for me, but my dear wife is more important to me. I have gotten used to the fact that I do not get any support from my 3 kids.

I have a DW who last year was diagnosed with moderate stage dementia, MOCA 16 at the age of 62. I am new to this group and looking for a community of like kind people dealing with this very unplanned and sad situation. I'm hoping to learn and gather information on what to expect in the future, how to handle situations as they arrise, plan for the future, etc. Thank you for letting me in the group.

I joined fairly recently myself and I've heard good suggestions and lots of support, especially when I've had a really lousy day. It helps me to keep moving forward instead of crawling in bed and pulling the covers over my head.

My heart really goes out to all of you caregivers (being one myself). I call you guys my people because we all get what we're going though, like no one else can. Like Maru had mentioned about her daughter no longer in contact (which is me and my son he bailed on us). It just makes the pain and loneliness so much harder at times. I just don't understand how kids that we supported, raised up, got them though college, and was with them though the hard times, can find any excuse ( I call it convenience anger) and just dump us when we need them. Any way I didn't mean to turn this into a vent, but I did. I hope and wish everyone on here has a blessed day and I hope someone today has told you that they care about you, how important you are and that you're loved.