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Crying often, delusional

QuillandBlossom
QuillandBlossom Member Posts: 2 Member
Hi, my 85 yo dad was diagnosed 2.5 years ago. Overnight, it seemed, his behaviors worsened. He cries a lot, says he wants to go home and asks where all the other people are. It’s heartbreaking to see this. I am his primary CG. My brother is flying in soon to take over for a few days. My world has shrunk so much. I want to get him out to do things but he isn’t open to what I suggest. So we go to the grocery store. He enjoys driving the motorized cart. Oh, and he’s packing up everything. I can’t find much of anything now

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  • ​fesk
    ​fesk Member Posts: 600
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    if there is a sudden change as you describe and you haven't already, please have him checked for a UTI, other infection or medical reason for this change. Infections can often create these behaviors. Also, if any medications have been changed recently, it may create an issue. I wish you the best of luck.

  • Quilting brings calm
    Quilting brings calm Member Posts: 3,273
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    anti anxiety, depression and antipsychotic medication is probably going to help the best.

  • mrider82
    mrider82 Member Posts: 19
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    This very same thing has started with my mother as well. She starts crying, saying, "I want to go home, I don't want to move."

    It started shortly after my dad and her had a conversation that if/when this disease becomes too much they would have to seek care at a facility.

    I just hug my mom, rub her shoulders, arms, etc and say, "I love you, you are safe and I completely understand why you want to go home as that is your happy and safe place, but I am right here with you and you are home."

    It takes a little bit for her to finally calm down and stop crying but it does help. Also helps that my dad says to her, "wherever you go, you won't be going without me"

    It's so heartbreaking to see this I know. I am so sorry that you are getting to this stage now!

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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