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let her try to take him. They won’t even get there because he will want to come home. It will be an eye-opener for her. Make sure the staff calls you when he leaves and when he returns.

I agree. I think it’s always a risk to take someone out of MC if they are prone to wanting to go back home, or not go back to the facility. Changes like that can cause anxiety, even if the outing itself is fun. They will forget the fun part and remember the anxiety. His daughter sounds like she’s in denial on how bad he is. She needs to remember that her presence at visits is more important than an outing.

His physical and mental safety is the most important thing. If the daughter , at her age and with her educational background ,doesn't understand risking his peace of mind doing activities that don't bring him pleasure that isn't a lesson you need to give her.

I couldn't think of two worse places - an ice cream shop with people crowded in pointing, pushing and yelling orders or a zoo with kids darting around , strange sounds and smells etc .

I'd let the MC know you don't want him taken out and as politely as you can ask the daughter - is it your Dad you want to see at his current best or bragging rights you went somewhere with him. Explain it is quality of visit not the type.

Biggest downside is these trips get him so worked up you'll have trouble taking him somewhere in the future ,like the dentist, where he needs to go.

I think if you just let her take him and then she will figure out what a mistake it is, there could be big problems. He may end up stressed and confused (more than normal) for days after. He could fall or become dehydrated because she is oblivious to his needs and the fact that he tires quickly. He could get upset and very anxious during the trip, demanding to go home. Sure she may learn her lesson, but at what cost. I definitely think you should discuss this with the staff. I would then try to tell her kindly and firmly outing are not an option and here is why.