Alone with no visitors

My DH is transitioning between stage 7 and stage 8. He has mixed dementia and is receiving hospice care. He is now in a memory care facility. There are at least two other people in his section who are also dying.

I have been with my DH for 6 to 8 hours each day for a week now. So far I haven't seen anyone in his section get a visitor. I know his neighbors well and it makes me sad that no one comes to see them other than the hospice staff and the staff at the MC facility.

Memory care facilities are not the easiest places to visit but you get used to it. There are worse places to visit.

I can tell by the way staff treats me that having someone sit with their loved on for hours is rare. They are not sure what to say to me or how to treat me. They mostly keep their distance.

I ended up bringing my DH some food. Even though we pay $1400 a month for his food they can't seem to find anything that an old man can eat when he doesn't have his dentures in. One aid offered a stale piece of cake that sat in the refrigerator uncovered for a few days. I said no thanks and she offered it again the next day so I headed to the grocery store and bought some food.

The nursing staff is totally indifferent. Most of the aids that provide his daily care keep their distance. I feel fortunate that I have family that stop by to check on us almost every day.

If you have a loved one in a memory care facility visit them often. People who have visitors are happier and they get better care.