Overwhelmed
My dad has been diagnosed with Alzheimers over a year. Truthfully, I never knew how to deal with that sad news. Just recently he was diagnosed with bladder cancer. I was adopted and have abandonment issues from it. Now everyday slowly losing my dad. I feel these overwhelming emotions. I just want a good night sleep without fear and aniexty of losing him. I am in therapy which has been wonderful. I need some support or advice.
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I am so sorry. When I am totally overwhelmed with anxiety I try something silly like every morning, saying three things to myself that I am grateful for. I also try to give back at difficult times. I can tell you are very devoted to your dad. Do you have any other passions like animals or children where you could volunteer for even an hour a week. Last, exercise is huge—especially if you are having difficulty sleeping. I am thinking of you.
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I found that exercising really helped me shed some stress. I liked the more machine-based things (bike, rower, treadmill, stairclimber) where it was 'headphones-tunes-exercise' at whatever level I felt like worked well for me that day. A nice endorphin bump can't hurt, right? Or a walk—just to get out and get some sun and be able to move.
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I recommend you read the book “Being Mortal”. It may help you come to terms with the inevitable.
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I found that having a few close friends I could really talk to, along with doing something gentle for myself every day (even just a walk or bath) helped me get through the worst times. Hang in there. It’s painful but part of life and good youre there for your dad.
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So sorry you are in such a difficult place right now. Everyone's advice is great.
Another idea. It's not for everyone, but if you could use something to take your mind off things, I found temporary relief in mindfully coloring adult coloring books.
It helps me to shut off "unwanted thoughts", to zone out, and feel calmer, if only for a time. It can be very restorative. Below is an example, but there are lot of resources out there, depending on interest. It's relatively inexpensive as I get my color markers from the "dollar" store.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0HN3VXCJT?binding=paperback&searchxofy=true&sr=8-20
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