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“Don’t Do This to Me!”: Spiraling Down
Tonight my spouse and I went to visit my 92-year-old dad in MC and had dinner with him. All was fine until it wasn’t. After the meal he grew increasingly agitated and wanted me to call his mother and see if we could stop by and visit her for a while tonight. What was surprising is that despite all efforts at redirection,…
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So unsure what I’m supposed to do to help. It’s MCI right now, but what exactly does that mean?
My husband is 70 and was recently diagnosed with “MCI due to Alzheimer’s” after going to the doctor after experiencing memory issues. He had an MRI, then PET scan, which led the neurologist to his diagnosis and starting Aricept. (This is our first week on it.) (The dr also suggested he think about infusion therapy, which…
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Angery Mother
I’m having major problems with my mom. Within the last four weeks if she doesn’t get her way, she will call me names not the nice ones either. I also moved in with her two years ago when she was first diagnosed with dementia she will also tell me that I need to move out. If she’s not getting her way. We have an appointment…
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Mother refuses to go to memory care appointment for diagnosis
My mother has been showing obvious signs of some sort of cognitive decline over the last year though may have been dealing with it for longer. She is very good at hiding it because she is quite socially skilled. We had to move my father out of the house they shared and into independent living because she was getting very…
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first time posting
Hello, my DH was diagnosed with Alzheimer's about a year ago. He still cares for himself (dressing, bathing) but is dependent on me for everything else (tv remote, financial, meals, everything, constantly asking questions). He has not driven in over a year but still insists he wants to renew his license. He does not seem…
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To sell or not to sell…
We moved my mom out of her house and into AL near me back in April. She was not emotionally ready to let the house go, so we have not tried to sell it yet. She occasionally talks about moving back there someday, but of course that is never going to happen. However, I think it makes it easier to accept her current…
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DH's cruel and angry outbursts
Today was so horrible. My DH has Alzheimer's. This morning began with him thinking that is Mom was still alive (she's been gone for 20 years) and that I was moving in and trying to take over her house. No matter how gently I tried to tell him that it was mine and his home, the angrier he became. I don't believe he would…
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Moving my mom in
My mom was starting to show signs of Alzheimer’s but she refused to admit it. I was doing all the work when she needed help or forgot things and finally had to step back for a few months so my brothers would step up. Now they see how bad it is and after a 2 am phone call they see she should not be living alone. The only…
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Newly diagnosed and looking for suggestions navigating doctors and meds
My husband was 58 and just diagnosed July 1 with Alzheimer's. We have been very frustrated with the care and support from doctors. He took a test at he PCP's office and did not do well so they referred him to the first neurologist available, who does not seem to have a lot of clinical experience. He ordered MRI, Flexi…
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Need to vent- Struggling as a F 29 y/o caring for Dad
I don’t even know where to begin. I’m just looking to vent and feel seen as I feel most of my friends do not understand and I have no family. My dad is 84 and was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia about 4 years ago. My parents divorced when I was young and I have 1 younger sister. When dad was no longer able to live…
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cried through MC breakfast w dad... then tears in the parking lot
Some days I just wanna read posts here and benefit from the sense of community and of understanding. As dad declines and my heart breaks, sometimes I just don't want to be around people who can't understand the things we do and see with our LOs. Maybe I could write a song called tears in the parking lot for those of us who…
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Beginning to Resent My Mom
Hello everybody! My dear spouse recommended I write about my recent feelings in here to vent, maybe get some more insight. I am 26 and am the main caretaker for my mom for about 5 years now since her Alzheimer's diagnosis in 2022. Her main "team" is myself, my spouse, and my best friend who moved in with us. I realized I…
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Stress, guilt, confusion
My oldest sister told me she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's a month ago. I know she's had mild memory loss for years, but she hid it well. It still seems mild to me, but I've never known anyone with this disease. She calls me to tell me that I never call her, although we speak frequently. When the conversation starts, she…
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Dad...
My Dad was a narcissistic man my entire life so far and now he is in the nursing home for PT from a back surgery he had at the end of April. Since his surgery, we have discovered he has had multiple strokes, he has been delirious and he has vascular dementia. The surgery took 8 hours and with all of his other issues such…
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No purpose
I am struggling with helping my Mom feel she still has a purpose. After 2 1/2 years in AL, she was recently (3 weeks ago) moved to MC. Her anxiety was increasing and staff felt as though the smaller environment would be better for her. In between activities (she would go, but rarely actively participate) she didn't know…
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Stressed Rambling Because I'm new to This
Hi everyone, my mother was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's and I started living with her about a month ago because she requires full time care. She was able to hide her mental decline for a long time because she has always been very independent, and we didn't have the best relationship. She is already in stage 5 or…
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Father Angry & Unhappy in SNF
My father(86 yo), who from what I’ve read has recently entered Stage 6, he has been in a SNF since April. Until recently he has been fairly happy there and hasn’t complained much. I’m not sure most days he really understands where he is, often times he calls it his apartment or thinks he is at work. Other than the dementia…
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Diagnosis restarts, conflicting medpro views, I'm burning out
I'm new here. I tried searching discussions & not much new—the uncertainty of everything is getting to me. My Mate (DW) 61 was diagnosed with EO (gene, fam history, 6 months of testing with long delays between, PET scans etc) in early February '26 (after getting a neurologist back in August. They referred her to an one of…
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DW Doesn’t recognize me
My DW (65) has been battling Alzheimer’s for the past 8 years and is now in early Stage 7. I have been her primary caregiver throughout this journey, although earlier this year I hired a caregiver who comes four days a week during the daytime to help. Over the past several months, my wife has continued to decline. Most…
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New to this site & in distress
My DW of 55 years was diagnosed with AZ, VD, LB in December of 2025. She has a wide range of health issues, which I have helped her handle for our entire marriage, The latest issue that I have struggled to deal with is her diabetic control. She has been a diabetic since she was 12YO. She has had an insulin pump for nearly…
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Dad's Almost Totally Impossible to Communicate With - Help Needed
[I've been a lurker for a few months, but I'm hoping to get some advice. Thanks, in advance.] My Dad (82) was diagnosed with early-stage Alzheimer's just under a year ago. Yes, I was floored. But it made sense, too. We'd been fighting for a few years regarding how he's [not] been communicating me in a reliable manner. For…
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Family member's death
My mother has dementia. Her brother died recently (he had Alzheimer's and died of natural causes). My mom is confused and upset by his death and has been believing her brother committed suicide (which is absolutely not true). We are comforting her but does anyone have advice for disabusing her of the suicide notion.
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Help for calming
In addition to the donezpril and memantine, has anyone added any cbd products for sleep and or calming? I would also like to recommend the digital publication " What About Me" that I found on womanandwell.com for wives dealing with husbands with dementia, but would also pertain to husbands with wives living with dementia.
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Scary and depressing delusions - how to respond?
My mother is in stage 4 of dementia. She's been anxious for over a year. Since she hates meds, I haven't felt it's severe enough to push for anxiety medication. I've been increasingly aware she is having delusions that cause more anxiety. I know the general advice is to accept their reality and not argue with how they are…
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Wants me near always
My husband only wants me with him to care for him - no relatives or caregivers. He wants me around all the time and if I leave the house, he forgets where I am and thinks I am dead, even with reminders from the relative or caregiver with him. He worries the whole time I am gone. I am his everything, which is a lot to…
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Young diagnosis of early onset ALZwgat to do first?
I’m a new member. My husband (48) was diagnosed Ed last week with Early AZ via blood test and pet scan. What do I do now?? I’m lost. Sad. Angry and need a path.
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Hospital stay for medication adjustment?
Hello, all. My DW has been in skilled nursing care for several months. She has later-stage Alzheimers but also physical limitations — needs help with eating, toileting, walking on 24/7 basis. She became more agitated and combative in recent weeks so SNC staff said she needed to go to hospital psych unit for medication…
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Mom doesnt listen
My mom is early onset Alzheimers and is experiencing some cognitive decline but not to the extent that I can contact the agency on aging for a caregiver. She can still bathe herself, etc. However, she does not listen to or obey what I tell her no matter what the reasoning. Right now, I am the only one available to take…