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being prevented from communication
My DW of 45 years has ALZ and is living in an assisted care facility. The oldest daughter has POA. She and an unknown DR have implemented what they call a "NO CONTACT" plan where I am being prevented from any communication with my wife. They say this is for her "well being" and that it is permanent. She is taking 3 or 4…
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Mom refusing to go to Dr appointments
New here. Mom has ALZ/Dementia and COPD. She is dependent on oxygen concentrator. For years now, Mom has been canceling dr's appointments on the day. Dad, who was her primary caregiver, died in May '25 and my brother and I are trying to care for her in her home. She recently fell and had a gash on her scalp, leading to…
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Really Need Help With My Mom and Dad, Could This be Dementia? Dad’s Behavior
Hi, I’m 49 and living with both of my aging parents. My dad is almost 80 and has been obsessively bringing up my mom’s past—accusing, interrogating, then apologizing and repeating it again. It started suddenly in early May. He has also: Forgotten recent events or where he placed items Told the same old stories repeatedly…
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First time caller
My wife (60) has been struggling remembering things that happened yesterday or even an hour ago. I thought it was stress related because we had major events in our lives: retirement, moving across country, empty nest, new grandchildren. But that was just the start. We tried playing games like pickleball, cards, dice - most…
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It’s finally real
I’ve known my mom has dementia for at least a few years but we finally got the official Alzheimer’s diagnosis a couple months ago. I moved her into an assisted living community a little over a year ago because it wasn’t safe at home but we were dancing around the dementia issue and focusing on getting her heathy otherwise.…
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Lost My Father Tragically - Learning How to Move Forward
Hi everyone, My father died as a result of dementia. During the night, he became confused and unsafe, something dementia had been causing more and more often. He left the house, and by the time my mother found him in the morning, it was too late. Writing that still feels unreal. What I am struggling with most now is guilt.…
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rough day w dad in MC "Get me out of here!"
Hi community, Dad was pretty agitated today during our visit. Redirecting was not working, so I had to cut my visit short. I'm wondering what I am missing or if you all have more ideas for me to consider. Here's some context plus what I'm seeing lately. He tells me that he just has to get out of there. Over and over. I…
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Missing my mom
My mom has dementia and she fell a couple of months ago fractured her pelvis and was in the nursing home for a couple of months for rehab. She did come home but we felt she needed more care than what I could give her. It’s just been me and my mom since my dad passed away in 2002. I’m so full of guilt for putting her in a…
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New here.
Hello! I’m new here, but unfortunately not new to dementia. My mom was diagnosed about 3 years ago, and this past March we decided that things were getting to the point we were unable to handle her care. We found a great MC facility. And she is doing the best she can. The hardest thing I’m having to deal with is my dad. My…
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Home care aggression
Hi! I’m looking for some advice - mom my was “approved” for 24/7 at home care but we’ve been struggling with her being aggressive to outside caregivers. She’s so sweet - until she’s not- which seems to take about a week then she wants them “out of her house”. She’s on all the typical Alzheimer’s medications & mood behavior…
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Angery Mother
I’m having major problems with my mom. Within the last four weeks if she doesn’t get her way, she will call me names not the nice ones either. I also moved in with her two years ago when she was first diagnosed with dementia she will also tell me that I need to move out. If she’s not getting her way. We have an appointment…
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My Mother's Siblings
I have a question, what should I do about my mother's siblings who are coming from out of state and want to spend all day at our house? I think that it's too long and offered a 3-4 hour visit yet they complain. Any thoughts?
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28 and my mom just got diagnosed
Hi, My name is Julie. I'm 28 and my mom just got diagnosed with Alzheimer's. It wasn't really a surprise. My Nana (her mom) had it and it was pretty severe by the end. My mom has aged pretty rapidly in the last 5 years. When Covid was going on she got lyme disease and some other blood borne disease (I don't remember what…
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Mom Won’t Stop Staring Out the Door
This is kind of a funny one, but I don’t know what to do about it. My mom has Alzheimer’s disease (moderate stage), and she loves looking outside through our windows and door. The problem is is that we have a shared driveway, so there’s usually people walking past our door. To be honest I personally would feel kinda…
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New Here & Just Trying To Keep Up
I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed and alone, and I’m so thankful to have found this group. I’m 29 and live in Georgia. My mom is 65, lives alone in Florida, and was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. My parents are divorced, and my sister isn’t able to help due to her own challenges. My mom’s brother offered support…
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Mom lives in Independent Living Fac, needs to move to AL, hard 'No!'
I am new to this forum. I have found many discussions relevant to my situation. I received a lot of good information from these discussions, but I figured I'd post my question on the off chance some more information may come to light. I currently care for my Mother with the help of my wife. My mom moved from out of state…
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I’m burned out and don’t know what to do
my DH has undiagnosed dementia and steadfastly refuses to see his doctor. This has been going on for more than three years. DH is 75 years old and is healthy except for his memory problems. My son comes over three nights a week to support me but he works full time so I’m pretty much on my own. I can’t hire a caregiver…
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Preparing LO For Death of a Friend
Hello everybody! I hope everyone is enjoying their summers so far. I am writing to try and gain some insight on how to handle this situation, for me and my mom. My mom is 61 and in the moderate stage of her Alzheimer’s. We live in an apartment building and have been very close friends with the woman that lives above us for…
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Memory Care transition
Well it has been 2.5 weeks since my DH has been in memory care. Prior to this, he spent 3.5 weeks in the hospital. The first couple of days he was there, I literally slept like a log. My bed didn't even look like i had moved a muscle. But as the days wear on I'm finding my big old house so quiet. It's sad. The facility is…
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Fear of being alone
my mother has maybe stage 6 dementia and she is terrified of being alone, to the point where I can’t go into the bathroom without her. I don’t mind bringing her with me, or keeping her in eyesight at all times (which she needs for safety reasons anyway) but the terror and anxiety she is feeling is gut wrenching. I hold her…
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Family Visit
Our beautiful son, daughter-in-law and two young grandchildren are visiting next week. Staying elsewhere but I'm a stressed wreck already. Our son and wife are the nicest, kindest couple but this situation with his dad (VD and aphasia) is hard for anyone to comprehend, understand and cope with. He knows that his dad is not…
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Is there any other way to relieve agitation besides medication?
My dear grandmother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's last year, and just in the previous few months, she has gotten worse. She has been yelling, berating, and crying lately, more like a manic patient. Sometimes she yells at my grandpa, mom, and aunts over a small thing. We are all heartbroken. And she refuses to take her…
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Father Diagnosed, What Now?
Hello everyone! My father was just yesterday diagnosed with EOAD after his father was hit with Alzheimer's, and his brother is exhibiting the same symptoms. In January my father will be tested to see if there's a genetic link, but my understanding is that it will be almost certain that I will have the same condition this…
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Worried about Mom’s Memory
My mom is 73 and she is forgetful. Meaning she forgets to charge her phone at night, get up and out the door for appointments first thing in the morning. Never sets alarms to get up. Forgets her purse and phone when she leaves the house. She sees a neurologist where we live and had been tested for Alzheimer’s by blood test…
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The anger issue
My DW’s dementia is progressing to the point where she will need to move out of our home to a MC facility. She gets increasingly angry with everything, and I can’t imagine how she will handle the move. Will the anger subside as her dementia continues progresses? Can medication help?
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Infusion #10
Tomorrow afternoon is Leqembi infusion #10. You'd think by now I wouldn't be so anxious about it. I've been taking anti-anxiety medication since the beginning, but ANXIOUS I am! I have all these racing thoughts, feel everything and nothing all at the same time. I know how that sounds, but it's the only way to describe it.…
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How to move from assisted living to memory care
My mom has been living in AL almost 2 years after difficult move out to California from Michigan. She did well the first year, but then AL decided to renovate and the disruption triggered fear. She’s 77 years old and was diagnosed with likely dementia, has aphasia and recently has been having auditory hallucinations. She’s…
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Mom is afraid to stay alone with Dad
Hi, my Dad has dementia. I think he's in the middle stages (gets angry, hallucinates, thinks the bank is stealing from him). Couple of days he had an episode and woke up at 3:30 a.m. Left the house and told my mom if she doesn't move, he will hit her. Thank God my aunt was there and went after him. He returned but was…
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Hope and hospice
My husband started on hospice a month ago. I find it has heightened my hope that the end will be here soon. Sadly, a side effect is I am getting exhausted from the waiting. I visit every day and don't feel like I can really separate sufficiently to do something like take a weekend away. I don't feel my presence is that…
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New, Scared and Confused...
I'm obviously a newbie to this site, as well as the amazing and mysterious world of Alzheimer’s. I began seeing a neurologist last summer because of an inability to think as clearly as I once did. Memory didn't seem like much of a problem since as far as I can remember, I always had a bad memory. Other issues that I…