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Anxiety

Seeing DH slowly fade away
The worse part of visiting is leaving & driving 3 hours back to an empty house. The worse part is also seeing the other veterans there that are farther along in their dementia journey knowing what's c…
Grief
Dementia
Anxiety
Started by goycoolea
Most recent by SDianeL
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
150
Oct 11, 2024
7
2
Struggling Only Child
Hi ya'll, I've recently become a caregiver at the age of 29 as an only child for my father with dementia who is 74. He was diagnosed back in December 2023 with very little notice and had to be moved i…
Early Stage (Mild)
Burnout
Dementia
Started by C_Igoe
Most recent by Ci2Ci
Caring for a Parent
325
Sep 26, 2024
3
10
Scared
Hi everybody. My loved one with Alzheimer's Disease is my dear mama and I am her main caretaker. I've posted a few times already in here and the support that I receive means more than any of you could…
Caregiving
Burnout
Anxiety
Started by rosecoloredglasses
Most recent by Lucy C
Caring for a Parent
230
Sep 18, 2024
1
6
Memory Care transition
Well it has been 2.5 weeks since my DH has been in memory care. Prior to this, he spent 3.5 weeks in the hospital. The first couple of days he was there, I literally slept like a log. My bed didn't ev…
Behaviors
Stress
Anxiety
Started by Rosanne77
Most recent by terei
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
223
Sep 9, 2024
3
4
1st night in MC tonight!
The move went well from her AL which was 20 minutes away to MC only 6 minutes from me. She seemed okay. Until I had to leave and she realized I was leaving. Rookie mistake - she has her cell phone. Ri…
Anxiety
Anger
Support
Started by kblau
Most recent by kblau
Caring for a Parent
256
Sep 8, 2024
2
13
Painful Delusions
For about 7-8 years my step dad and I were the main caregivers (we luckily eventually had in home care almost 24/7, but we still managed a lot) for my grandma with dementia, my mom completely checked …
Anxiety
Planning for the Future
Adult Child
Started by calistalabolle
Most recent by terei
Caring for a Parent
118
Sep 7, 2024
0
3
Recent Diagnosis
I was just diagnosed yesterday with early stage Alzheimer’s. I am overwhelmed with fear. I go from being hopeful to having very little hope at all. I’m afraid of who I will become and what my illness …
Early Stage (Mild)
Anxiety
Newly Diagnosed
Started by Bluearmadillo
Most recent by llkahl
I Am Living With Alzheimer's or Other Dementia
618
Aug 29, 2024
4
36
High Anxiety / Anger Issues
I am trying to help my 81 year old father who is my mothers primary caregiver. They still live in the house they raised 3 boys in for the last 56 years. I work two jobs one of which is caregiving for …
Cost of Care
Anxiety
Anger
Started by jeffe
Most recent by KMSKid
Caring for a Parent
125
Aug 28, 2024
1
3
The Fall
Probably the worst situation possible…91 year old with Alzheimer's now with a broken femur… http://simplebender.com/2024/08/17/joy-in-alzheimers-episode-47-the-fall/
Caregiving
Dementia
Care Options
Started by simplebender
Most recent by simplebender
Caring for a Parent
135
Aug 21, 2024
1
2
what is my aim? I still feel like I'm missing something
Hello dear community, I did take a break from visiting Dad. Mainly because it seemed to be upsetting for him. I've applied your advice (shorter visits, take someone with me, bring a treat to eat, stay…
Stress
Anxiety
Support
Started by jen ht
Most recent by sandwichone123
Caring for a Parent
297
Aug 17, 2024
3
12
Medication Help
A few years ago before my mom had a confirmed diagnosis of ALZ, she was started on Lexapro 20mg, then namenda and aricept. She’s been in AL for 3 months. Geriatric Psych at the facility added on Wellb…
Anxiety
Wandering
Medication Safety
Started by kblau
Most recent by kblau
Caring for a Parent
89
Aug 16, 2024
0
2
Medication Difficulties
Hello everyone. I can’t say I’m very new here, but this is my first post. I’ve been (what my husband would say is “lurking”) in the background - reading and learning from all of you who have travelled…
Anxiety
Medication Safety
Started by CampCarol
Most recent by harshedbuzz
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
336
Jul 31, 2024
0
10
Personal Stigma
Why is the stigma associated with mental health, dementia, Alz, etc. so pervasive? It affects all of us, even those afflicted……
Dementia
Memory Loss
Depression
Started by simplebender
Most recent by simplebender
Caring for a Parent
59
Jul 19, 2024
0
2
Obsessions
Hey dear people, again, new to this and can't imagine this journey that I'm on and how long it will last without losing my mind... I'm not being disrespectful, it's just where else can I voice my frus…
Stress
Depression
Anxiety
Started by kgorlick
Most recent by michiganpat
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
391
Jul 7, 2024
4
9
Early onset: navigating caregiving AND parenting simultaneously
Lately, I've been feeling more ready to wander around these forums and read about the struggles and heartbreaks of other caregivers. We are fairly new to this reality and I'm finding acceptance of our…
Early Stage (Mild)
Anxiety
Home Safety
Started by Mollykazoo
Most recent by Mollykazoo
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
224
Jun 24, 2024
1
6
Mother not cooperating with maid
My mother ,aged 66,is not able to go to washroom by herself We have maid,who helps her, recently she is not cooperating with her as well. Other than my sister,she does not allow anyone else to be with…
Caregiver Health
Dementia
Hallucinations
Started by farha shaikh
Most recent by Jackie M.
Caring for a Parent
117
Jun 23, 2024
0
2
Grieving and Planning
Hello All- My first post ever. I am 40 years old and moved in to help my father 78 who was diagnosed with alz in 2020-- but had been declining for over a decade. He has really progressed and is incont…
Asking for Help
Anxiety
Incontinence
Started by Meredith1284
Most recent by mabelgirl
Caring for a Parent
104
Jun 9, 2024
3
2
Therapeutic Lie
Hi everybody! I was looking for some advice on how to explain to my mom (60 with ALZ) the idea of starting to go to an adult day care program. There’s this wonderful program that’s 5 minutes away from…
Burnout
Caregiver Health
Care Options
Started by rosecoloredglasses
Most recent by hiya
Caring for a Parent
197
Jun 6, 2024
0
8
I'm so tired.
My great grandma recently moved in with me. I knew there would be an adjustment period, but months later the behavior is only getting worse. She doesn't ever sleep a full night and is just never happy…
Behaviors
Caregiving
Burnout
Started by great_granddaughter
Most recent by great_granddaughter
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
169
May 24, 2024
1
6
Mom is hitting; is it reasonable to expect an action plan?
I'm new here, struggling to find some info so any help is appreciated! - also, sorry for how long this is. Last fall, my sister and I convinced our dad to put Mom in memory care. She's advanced enough…
Behaviors
Communication
Anxiety
Started by krwebb
Most recent by Lynn24
Caring for a Parent
328
May 1, 2024
2
8
Never Dealt With Alzheimer's Before and Need Some Guidance
Hello. I have never been close to someone who had Alzheimer's before (I'm 54) and I need some guidance, please. My father (Jamie) passed away in 1988 at age 50 from brain cancer. His best friend, Char…
Asking for Help
Hallucinations
Anxiety
Started by KatieWheeler
Most recent by harshedbuzz
Caring Long Distance
121
Apr 22, 2024
1
2
Unsure about my diagnosis
I had a brain scan that showed my hippocampus is at 5%, but no tau tangles so it’s not Alz. My speech is slower then it was, I forget things all the time, I have trouble with thinking things through. …
Communication
Dementia
Mild Cognitive Impairment
Started by lost1
Most recent by lost1
I Am Living With Alzheimer's or Other Dementia
155
Apr 7, 2024
0
7
New fast progressing signs of Dementia
Hi new here and in search of helpful feedback. My 85 year old dad has not been officially diagnosed with dementia yet but his pcp and er doctors all agree that he is showing all signs of being that. H…
Asking for Help
Safety
Dementia
Started by dpanameno
Most recent by H1235
Caring for a Parent
173
Apr 7, 2024
0
4
New paranoia- Passenger Seat
It was around a year ago when I first saw my mother have a severe panic attack riding in the passenger seat. I had no idea why she was so upset, she couldn't look at the road, and eventually started c…
Behaviors
Stress
Safety
Started by justask
Most recent by justask
Caring for a Parent
188
Apr 2, 2024
0
5
Catastrophic Reaction to pain
My mother, 83 , Mixed Dementia (Vascular & Alzheimers) mid to late stage, lives with me and has been Physically able to transfer and walk with a walker us to this point. However, she had a fall last w…
Behaviors
Caregiving
Stress
Started by wctraynor
Most recent by Lynn24
Caring for a Parent
110
Apr 2, 2024
0
4
Need advice--meds, good days, bad days, anticipatory grief
Hi, this is long but I don't know that it can be abbreviated. My mom is 86 and has been having symptoms of dementia for the past couple years. I don't know which kind she has because she has not been …
Caregiving
Burnout
Dementia
Started by AlBel
Most recent by Smilescountry
Caring for a Parent
238
Mar 30, 2024
2
5
Fed up from the life.
Previously i posted about me feeling that i am forgetting things and losing my memory. I don't remember any happy memories seems they are somewhere in the dark and as much as i know I had many happy m…
Behaviors
Stress
Memory Loss
Started by Aayushi
Most recent by Iris L.
I Am Living With Alzheimer's or Other Dementia
114
Mar 23, 2024
0
3
Feeling Attacked by Well-Meaning Friends
My Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's almost a year ago now. She lived alone and was really not doing well and she lived 100+ miles away from me. I took some advice and found a really nice MC facility…
Anxiety
Memory Care
Adult Child
Started by Kimmyw
Most recent by J-Twin
Caring for a Parent
522
Mar 15, 2024
2
18
Trust is gone..
I'm just kind of thinking about our relationship because it's Valentine's Day. After his outbursts of screaming and throwing objects last week, as well as telling me he's going to "leave me" I'm not s…
Behaviors
Anxiety
Anger
Started by mrahope
Most recent by mrahope
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
568
Mar 13, 2024
5
13
Calming meds for anxiety?
Hi, when music, diversion, soft textures, fresh air•••golf kart ride etc won't comfort Mom's agitation, sundowners type intense anxiety. Are there any prescribed medications that work well in anyone o…
Asking for Help
Care Options
Anxiety
Started by patiron
Most recent by sharimcclure
Caring for a Parent
313
Mar 9, 2024
1
6

Commonly Used Abbreviations

DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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Anxiety

Anxiety

Seeing DH slowly fade away

Struggling Only Child

Scared

Memory Care transition

1st night in MC tonight!

Painful Delusions

Recent Diagnosis

High Anxiety / Anger Issues

The Fall

what is my aim? I still feel like I'm missing something

Medication Help

Medication Difficulties

Personal Stigma

Obsessions

Early onset: navigating caregiving AND parenting simultaneously

Mother not cooperating with maid

Grieving and Planning

Therapeutic Lie

I'm so tired.

Mom is hitting; is it reasonable to expect an action plan?

Never Dealt With Alzheimer's Before and Need Some Guidance

Unsure about my diagnosis

New fast progressing signs of Dementia

New paranoia- Passenger Seat

Catastrophic Reaction to pain

Need advice--meds, good days, bad days, anticipatory grief

Fed up from the life.

Feeling Attacked by Well-Meaning Friends

Trust is gone..

Calming meds for anxiety?

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