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Help and insight
Hi. I apologize if this seems off or redundant, I’m new to a lot of this. My grandfather has Alzheimer’s. It’s pretty bad. My mom lives with him to help and I’m over as much as I can. But lately he’s aggressive and wants to go home. Stating this is not his home. It’s definitely in the sundowners range because it’s usually…
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How to respond when DH does this
We have been married 33 years. DH has anger attacks. There has been never any talk about leaving. We have been through even his helicopter accident. Saying this there has been some recent anger episodes where it is late at night or early morning, he comes in yelling “If you are so unhappy then leave. Just go! Do you want…
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Hello Everyone - just diagnosed with AD
I am a retired engineer, 71 years old, born and raised in Ponce, Puerto Rico, but I have been living on the mainland since 1984. I am a widower living alone and was recently diagnosed with very early stage AD based on the results of my PET Scan, even though my PTAU 217 levels showed normal. I do not have the PTOE 4 (is…
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Equipment for dementia or ALZ patients
Dad is a fall risk due to frequent UTI issues. Having ALZ adds to the difficulty. We have part-time caregivers and my sister and I are there often but there are times he is alone and is generally ok. When he suddenly get a UTI he falls and is weak. We have went through a few devices with fall detection to no avail:…
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Short term memory and spouse
I am 56 and started having memory issues this year and seems more prevalent recently. I dont have a diagnosis yet and see the neurologist in Nov. A recent example is my wife and I went on a hot air balloon ride in Africa. 8 days later she told friends we took the balloon ride and I interrupted her and said no we didnt. I…
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New Member, First Post - Power of Attorney
I have three siblings and one lives fifteen minutes away from my mom. I live in another state but manage all her finances and anything else I can to take the load off our sibling who lives locally. When I agreed to be my mom's power of attorney, I naively thought it would only come into play for her finances. However, this…
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Mom has auditory hallucinations need help
My 96 year old mom has alzheimers and recently has been having auditory hallucinations - she hears the same part of a song over and over ( i can't id the song). this started about 6 weeks ago for 1 day, then again a month later the 14 days later and then 4 days later. it really upsets her. she thinks its coming from a…
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I’m so lost - mother is 90, English is a second language
I am so lost. My father recently passed away - somewhat unexpectedly - and, as an only child, am left to care for my 90 year old mother. I had not realized just how bad her short-term memory loss had gotten (dad never said) and I suspect she has onset dementia, She refuses to talk to a doctor or anyone about her mental…
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When do you decide to place your spouse in a Facility
My husband is only 61. The confusion started 3 years ago. In the last 7 weeks he has decided fast - no longer uses the restroom, does not eat, have to force him. Can stay up for 2 to 3 days with our much sleep (cat naps - 15 to 30 minutes), constantly pacing, has left the house in the middle of the night with no shoes,…
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Therapist or counsellor
Hi there, my wife’s mother was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s. She is understandably finding it emotionally tough. Could anyone recommend a therapist who specialises in this (for my wife)? Many thanks in advance
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New, Scared and Confused...
I'm obviously a newbie to this site, as well as the amazing and mysterious world of Alzheimer’s. I began seeing a neurologist last summer because of an inability to think as clearly as I once did. Memory didn't seem like much of a problem since as far as I can remember, I always had a bad memory. Other issues that I…
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Is there any other way to relieve agitation besides medication?
My dear grandmother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's last year, and just in the previous few months, she has gotten worse. She has been yelling, berating, and crying lately, more like a manic patient. Sometimes she yells at my grandpa, mom, and aunts over a small thing. We are all heartbroken. And she refuses to take her…
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Rehab versus hospice
My 91 year old Mom is somewhere between late stage 5 and early stage 6. She was fairly stable for the past year, but I (and her caregivers in memory care) saw a precipitous decline over the past couple of months. She has completely lost her appetite and is eating very little. Even her former favorite sweets have no appeal.…
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Personal Hygeine
My father & his wife are in assisted living & have recently resisted showering. I will be approaching the subject with them, but could use any advice you have on how best to approach. I do not live close enough to be onsite to assist on a regular basis.
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New Here & Just Trying To Keep Up
I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed and alone, and I’m so thankful to have found this group. I’m 29 and live in Georgia. My mom is 65, lives alone in Florida, and was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. My parents are divorced, and my sister isn’t able to help due to her own challenges. My mom’s brother offered support…
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I don’t know what I’m doing
Hello, I am 25 years old. My mom (58) was diagnosed with early onset alzheimer’s recently. She was originally diagnosed with FTD last year, but due to genetic testing that discovered she has 2 copies of the APOE4 gene, her neurologist changed her diagnosis to EOA. Both her parents passed in the last few years from…
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Advice!!
I am new to the group and need advice. My Mom has late stages Alzheimer’s and has been able to be alone for part of the day while I work. This week every day she has been scared, anxious and leaves the house and then cannot figure out how to get back. I have a caregiver but she only comes from 12 to 1 as that is all I can…
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I'm 45 and just got the news
I just tested positive for moderate to frequent corticol amyloid deposition. I don't even know how to feel right now. I went to my doctor for cognitive decline and memory problems, and the pet scan showed this. My doctor didn't tell me very much, so I've been researching online, and i can't stop crying. This was my biggest…
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Showering /refusing/thinking they have
I am a caregiver ,been one for 5 years. I have not ever came across anyone with this type of situation before. My client refuses to shower. She states that she already has taken one either morning or night but has not. Family has cameras up that proves she does not shower. I have used many tactics as to we can go to dinner…
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Advice for Going Back to Work
I took FMLA for a year to assist with the new diagnosis of Alzheimers for my mom. It was intermittent FMLA so while I still worked, I was able to take off for appointments, my own mental health, and days that seemed like my mom just needed someone to be with her. I was averaging about 20 hours a week rather than my full 40…
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Providing Support for my Family
Hi, I am looking for some advice. For some background, my mom (58) was recently diagnosed with EOA. She no longer works and is home during the day with my brother (28 with down syndrome). My dad lives with them, but works full time. I (25) live nearby with my fiancé and I also work full time. My mom is obviously going…
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Stepdad with Alzhemiers getting possessive
I am definitely looking for help and not sure what to do. My mom has stage 4 breast cancer and is at home on Hospice. She does not have much time left. My stepdad is also here and has late stage AZ. I have been trying to find a memory care facility for him, but I am not his power of attorney or next of kin so I am having…
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Dad's anger and my mental well-being
Hello, I am beginning to wonder if my visits with dad do more harm than good. He really wants to go home. The demands increase and intensify. I end up just having to figure out ways to excuse myself so he doesn't escalate more. Agitation and pacing have already been concerns for the nurse practitioner at his memory care…
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Coping with changing behaviors
My mom has alzheimers and has suddenly become agitated when viewing images of herself or others in a mirror. She is afraid that she's being watched by strangers (images in mirror) or people on tv. She also hides money, thinking others are coming to steal it. She also has no idea whether it's daytime or night. I'm at a loss…
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Feeling Fragile
I feel so sad. My DH of 54 years has VD stage 5 or 6 our partnership over the years has been so strong, we've worked together in our own business, sailed together, flown together, had our children together, and always relied on and supported each other, and now it's just me calling all the shots. I love him dearly and I am…
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Cardio surgery and Quality of life
For context, my dad had two valve replacements many years ago that seem to have been a factor in his dementia. The valve in his first surgery was crushed by scar tissue so his case was written in medical journal and the cardiology department at Vanderbilt (which is local to us) is really invested in his care. About a month…
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Our parents both have dementia & anxiety
Dad is 85 and has Alzheimer’s and dementia. Mom is 80 and has dementia and aphasia. They are living in their apartment with aides providing care 11am-8pm 7 days a week. Their conditions are advancing and soon we will have to rethink their care. Dad is getting agitated and verbally abusive to mom, which of course gets her…
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Bed bound & aggressive -looking for advice
I'm new here and looking for advice. A little background -I help care for my 84 year old father. He has late stage Alzheimer's, bed bound and completely dependent for care. Communication is difficult as his eyesight and hearing are poor and his ability to speak coherently is mostly gone. We are having a terrible time with…
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feeling sadness and panic and heartbreak seeing my mom like this
She was failing at home, seeing things, getting a bit dangerous, not able to care for herself etc so we were lucky to get her in a home. She has not liked it, tried to escape, fought a little bit to get out, but then got weaker so not as mobile. She has been going downhill so fast. She is weak and crying and moaning. They…