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New… Dealing with Mom’s Hallucinations
My mom is in her 60s and her pcp says she is having brain slips and in stages of dementia. I am trying to get her seen by a neurologist and someone recently recommended a geriatric psychiatrist as an alternative for an assessment. It has been 3 months since the diagnosis and she was given an antidepressant. She is now…
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Newbie here.....how to cope with my dad
My dad, unoffically, has alzheimers. He does not want to be tested. I am 52. He is 88. My mom passed 6 years so just him and I. He lives with me. I have my own business and work lots of hours. He has a part time care giver just so she can take him to doctor appts and get him out of the house for a meal. My entire life…
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Early onset of Alzheimer’s and the cost of long term care
Hello All, My mother was diagnosed with early onset of Alzheimer’s in 2015 at the age of 51. She just turned 59, and the disease has progressed significantly. My father had to move her into a memory care unit housed in a nursing facility. She has been unable to take care of herself for years and needs additional one on one…
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Early onset Alzheimer’s (Stage 7)
We knew dad had been struggling for years with depression and insomnia but nothing prepared us for the effects of early onset Alzheimer’s. My mom has always been a working mom, 60 hours a week, every week without taking any sick days. My dad struggled with holding down jobs and was dealing with mental illness year after…
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Angry forever?
My moms delusions and anger have become so taxing that our family feels like it may be time for full time care but she’s voiced she doesn’t want to go to a nursing home and “nothings wrong” with her. I KNOW she’s going to be irate with everyone. My question is, do you have experience with this and was your loved one angry…
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Early Onset Symptoms... What was your story? How did you tell your loved one that you were worried?
Hello everyone! I'm new here. My aunt reached out to me to let me know she was starting to become concerned about my great-uncle (who is in his early 50's.) He's been having some memory lapses and increased anxiety/frustration. His father had early-onset dementia, and this has us especially worried. We're trying to work…
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Reaching Out!
Hello, I am a new member and reaching out to help relieve my stress that I'm going through! My DH has had Alzheimer's for 6 years now, us being married 54 years and retired 20 years and within the last couple of months he is not recognizing me all the time. It starts late afternoons lasting until bedtime, which I found out…
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Troubles sleeping
My mom hasn't been sleeping properly ever since her surgery near the end of December. The first few days of the first week of her recovery I understood. She was taking meds that made her drowsy at times so naturally her sleep patterns are going to get screwy. However, she stopped those meds 3 days in. She leveled out the…
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Mom doesn't want to be cared for
Hi, My name is Stephanie and live near Albuquerque, NM. I'm new to this forum and dealing with dementia in general. I recently brought my 81-year-old German mom to the US as she cannot care for herself anymore (middle? stage of Alzheimer/Dementia). Back in Germany, she was hospitalized twice in Aug and Oct 23 and the…
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Need help but don't know what to do
My grandfather is 84 years old and has had dementia for years now but has recently been declining rapidly so I moved him into my house where my mother takes care of him. He has hospice care so nurses show up twice a week to asess him but thats the only care they provide .She quit her job because he needs fulltime support…
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Visiting my dear friend in Florence, AL35630 next week: How to adress the topic?
Hello, I am Kerstin from Germany. About 35 years ago I stayed with a family near Chicago for while to take care of their disabled son. I returned to Germany but we stayed in contact ever since, we are like family. The mother (age 76) has now been diagnosed with dementia, but is in denial. At present she lives at her…
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Convincing LO to Move
New here and need help... 4 months ago, I came to my parent's house out of state thinking I was going to support my parents for a few weeks, working remotely, for my mom's knee replacement surgery. Long story short, I have been back home for 56 hours because my mother fell and fractured 4 ribs, contracted asymptomatic…
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Late stage/seventh stage care
I'm fairly sure mom's completely in the last stage now, no longer straddling six and seven. I'm trying to find resources on what exactly her care needs are for this stage in life because it's vastly different than anything I've been through before. I have tried some web searches but they all seem rather vague and general…
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Getting overnight caregiver
We've been trying to take shifts watching mom overnight to make sure she doesn't slide out of bed or get stuck in the railings on the hospital bed. Thankfully she hasn't had any issue since being in the new bed and with us watching. We're still not getting enough sleep ourselves and it's starting to impact our job…
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New to everything
Hello, My mom been slowly losing her memory, for the last few year, This last year it has been getting worse and I am not sure where to turn. My mom is 75, some of her memory problems started 13 years ago when my older sister lost her battle to breast cancer, in the beginning I thought was her way of coping with the grief.…
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MIL taking advantage now that FIL can no longer control spending, spent $19k on clothes last year
My FIL has mid stage dementia and my MIL has a long history of substance abuse and untreated mental health issues. She's been better since they moved to their retirement community but she still has her moments. We've been taking over the finances. The FIL long ago determined that he'd never have dementia and would never…
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Don't Know what to do
My mom has had Dementia for a few years now and it is overwhelming at times especially when she says things like I (her daughter) or my aunt (her sister) are trying to harm her when that is not true. She doesn't even remember my name or that I am her daughter but I know it is just the disease but it still affects me at…
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Agression & Frustration
Hello, I would like to receive information on what to do in cases when my uncle who has Alzheimer's becomes aggressive or frustrated with her. My Aunt does not have the financial resources to place my Uncle in senior care. Some places here in Houston have wanted to charge her around $7,000 a month for his placement and…
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Struggling with a solution
Hello everyone! My name is Michael. I live in South Carolina about 4 hours away from my parents. My mother has dementia and her cognitive decline has been rapid over the past few months. My father has health problems and hearing issues, but is able to take care of himself. However, my mother requires a lot of monitoring.…
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Seeking some solace and advice
Hello, my sister and I are in the proverbial weeds with our 79 year old Mom who has recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. She has been showing signs of short term memory loss for the last few years and this past 6 months it has noticeably deteriorated. We have been at the mercy of a very slow diagnosis but finally had…
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How to hold a conversation with a relative who has dementia?
I have a relative who was first diagnosed with dementia a few years ago and over the last few years I have noticed it is becoming increasingly difficult to maintain a two way conversations with her. I feel awkward about asking too many questions as I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable and she is quick to hang up the…
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Feeling Overwhelmed
Hello, I am here to learn about this diagnosis and to get support in making choices in the best interest of my aunt as well as those of us who are caring for her. My aunt has been diagnosed with dementia with psychosis in November. She is 83. She has no spouse or children and she has been living alone in her home since my…
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Recent Alzheimer's Diagnosis for Dad - Learning on the job
Hi guys, We have recently had a diagnosis of Alzheimer's given to Dad, compounding his battle with Prostate Cancer. In addition to the mental anguish of the situation, the practical issue we are having to cope with is daily (sometimes twice daily) faecal incontinence. I wondered if anybody had any practical tips, however…
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Home Help
Hi, I am a 21yo and I live with my Grandma who is late stage in dementia. I need help finding homes. I am in constant therapy for PTSD from the abuse and need guidance. I feel like either I go into a psych hospital or find her a home. If there's any recs that someone can give me I would be most grateful.
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Im struggling...
I feel like I'm drowning... I am my dad's caretaker. He has vd. I am grieving my life I left in Texas that I left in Feb. 2022 to take care of my dad in CA. I am having trouble just functioning day to day.
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Simple Universal Remote
I am looking for a simple, large button, remote control that handles the TV, Cable box, and sound bar. Mom is still in the milder dementia days and finds two remotes too difficult to remember. Unfortunately the remotes I'm finding by Googleing only control two things not three. I was hoping people in the group can…
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I'm asking a question but she thinks I'm giving orders..
That's what I think is happening. I ask..."are you ready to go to bed?" She says, "I guess." She doesn't sound thrilled but she goes upstairs. I get that a lot and I sometimes think she does the "I guess" or shrugs her shoulders because she thinks she's being ordered to do something. I'm asking, not ordering & I try to use…
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Third person
Hello, I am brand new to this and am overwhelmed. My DH was diagnosed with moderate stage dementia in April and last night had another episode of thinking he was not at home. He was trying to leave at 2:00am. This morning he started speaking to me in the third person. I am afraid to sleep because he may wander. Any…
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Early onset Alzheimer's
Hello everyone. This is my first post and I am lost. My DW who is 53 y/o and has a masters degree lost 4 jobs in 3 years and now has issues remembering normal things. Her mother had early onset at 53 and past by 59. We had cognitive testing that showed a decline in memory and processing but don't see the neurologist till…
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Talking to strangers online
I am new to this group and am taking care of my dad who has mild to moderate alzheimers....I had to move in with him to help take care of him but I still work full time. My problem is that lately had been talking to several different woman online from social media or dating sites.. . I know he is lonely but I don't know…