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Convincing LO to Move
New here and need help... 4 months ago, I came to my parent's house out of state thinking I was going to support my parents for a few weeks, working remotely, for my mom's knee replacement surgery. Long story short, I have been back home for 56 hours because my mother fell and fractured 4 ribs, contracted asymptomatic…
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Late stage/seventh stage care
I'm fairly sure mom's completely in the last stage now, no longer straddling six and seven. I'm trying to find resources on what exactly her care needs are for this stage in life because it's vastly different than anything I've been through before. I have tried some web searches but they all seem rather vague and general…
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Getting overnight caregiver
We've been trying to take shifts watching mom overnight to make sure she doesn't slide out of bed or get stuck in the railings on the hospital bed. Thankfully she hasn't had any issue since being in the new bed and with us watching. We're still not getting enough sleep ourselves and it's starting to impact our job…
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New to everything
Hello, My mom been slowly losing her memory, for the last few year, This last year it has been getting worse and I am not sure where to turn. My mom is 75, some of her memory problems started 13 years ago when my older sister lost her battle to breast cancer, in the beginning I thought was her way of coping with the grief.…
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MIL taking advantage now that FIL can no longer control spending, spent $19k on clothes last year
My FIL has mid stage dementia and my MIL has a long history of substance abuse and untreated mental health issues. She's been better since they moved to their retirement community but she still has her moments. We've been taking over the finances. The FIL long ago determined that he'd never have dementia and would never…
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Don't Know what to do
My mom has had Dementia for a few years now and it is overwhelming at times especially when she says things like I (her daughter) or my aunt (her sister) are trying to harm her when that is not true. She doesn't even remember my name or that I am her daughter but I know it is just the disease but it still affects me at…
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Agression & Frustration
Hello, I would like to receive information on what to do in cases when my uncle who has Alzheimer's becomes aggressive or frustrated with her. My Aunt does not have the financial resources to place my Uncle in senior care. Some places here in Houston have wanted to charge her around $7,000 a month for his placement and…
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Struggling with a solution
Hello everyone! My name is Michael. I live in South Carolina about 4 hours away from my parents. My mother has dementia and her cognitive decline has been rapid over the past few months. My father has health problems and hearing issues, but is able to take care of himself. However, my mother requires a lot of monitoring.…
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Seeking some solace and advice
Hello, my sister and I are in the proverbial weeds with our 79 year old Mom who has recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. She has been showing signs of short term memory loss for the last few years and this past 6 months it has noticeably deteriorated. We have been at the mercy of a very slow diagnosis but finally had…
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How to hold a conversation with a relative who has dementia?
I have a relative who was first diagnosed with dementia a few years ago and over the last few years I have noticed it is becoming increasingly difficult to maintain a two way conversations with her. I feel awkward about asking too many questions as I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable and she is quick to hang up the…
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Feeling Overwhelmed
Hello, I am here to learn about this diagnosis and to get support in making choices in the best interest of my aunt as well as those of us who are caring for her. My aunt has been diagnosed with dementia with psychosis in November. She is 83. She has no spouse or children and she has been living alone in her home since my…
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Recent Alzheimer's Diagnosis for Dad - Learning on the job
Hi guys, We have recently had a diagnosis of Alzheimer's given to Dad, compounding his battle with Prostate Cancer. In addition to the mental anguish of the situation, the practical issue we are having to cope with is daily (sometimes twice daily) faecal incontinence. I wondered if anybody had any practical tips, however…
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Home Help
Hi, I am a 21yo and I live with my Grandma who is late stage in dementia. I need help finding homes. I am in constant therapy for PTSD from the abuse and need guidance. I feel like either I go into a psych hospital or find her a home. If there's any recs that someone can give me I would be most grateful.
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Im struggling...
I feel like I'm drowning... I am my dad's caretaker. He has vd. I am grieving my life I left in Texas that I left in Feb. 2022 to take care of my dad in CA. I am having trouble just functioning day to day.
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Simple Universal Remote
I am looking for a simple, large button, remote control that handles the TV, Cable box, and sound bar. Mom is still in the milder dementia days and finds two remotes too difficult to remember. Unfortunately the remotes I'm finding by Googleing only control two things not three. I was hoping people in the group can…
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I'm asking a question but she thinks I'm giving orders..
That's what I think is happening. I ask..."are you ready to go to bed?" She says, "I guess." She doesn't sound thrilled but she goes upstairs. I get that a lot and I sometimes think she does the "I guess" or shrugs her shoulders because she thinks she's being ordered to do something. I'm asking, not ordering & I try to use…
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Third person
Hello, I am brand new to this and am overwhelmed. My DH was diagnosed with moderate stage dementia in April and last night had another episode of thinking he was not at home. He was trying to leave at 2:00am. This morning he started speaking to me in the third person. I am afraid to sleep because he may wander. Any…
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New here, looking for support
My mom has been on a steady cognitive decline over the past 2 years after a big fall and some medications she was placed on. We have not been given the diagnosis of Dementia due to the fact that she will not get tested and gets extremely angry when it is suggested. (She has always had anger issues and does not let anyone…
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Early onset Alzheimer's
Hello everyone. This is my first post and I am lost. My DW who is 53 y/o and has a masters degree lost 4 jobs in 3 years and now has issues remembering normal things. Her mother had early onset at 53 and past by 59. We had cognitive testing that showed a decline in memory and processing but don't see the neurologist till…
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Talking to strangers online
I am new to this group and am taking care of my dad who has mild to moderate alzheimers....I had to move in with him to help take care of him but I still work full time. My problem is that lately had been talking to several different woman online from social media or dating sites.. . I know he is lonely but I don't know…
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So many questions! Ups and downs, rapid decline, toileting issues, when to move....
Hi all, My 82 yo mother was diagnosed with Alzheimers just a few months ago. We moved her into assisted living a year and a half ago with "mild cognitive impairment." In the last month, we have seen a significant decline. She was prescribed Aricept about 6 weeks ago by her neurologist and the rapid decline started shortly…
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Caring for Grandma
Good morning. I'm new here. My wife's grandmother is in mid stages of Alzheimer's and is at home. Grandpa is her primary caretaker and does not want to move her to a memory care facility. He also doesn't allow much help. My wife and I go over every couple of weeks to wash grandma's hair and try to get her into a change of…
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New(ish) Diagnosis and EOAD
Hello, I am a 48 year old wife whose 58 year old husband has recently been diagnosed with dementia. We are awaiting PET scan and more testing (always more testing) for a "type" of dementia. We have 2 children (21 and 18) that are in college. I started noticing symptoms a year ago, and then in February of this year he had…
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New to Forum: Introduction 👋🏻
Hi all, My partner was about 26-27 when she started to realize her mother was having difficulties recalling basic things. We are 31 now. Her mother lives independently (alone) and does not know what is happening. My partner is more or less her mother's only family. My partner's sister, her mother's other daughter, lives on…
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Unsure of facility
What do you do when you're not sure of the facility your loved one is in? It gets decent online reviews, but she is entering late stage dementia and is constantly being sent off to the hospital? For various reasons. Touched another resident, non-med compliant, tripped....every other day it's something. She has moments of…
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Mom thinks we live in an identical home across town
Mom (MIL) was diagnosed with dementia, most likely Alzheimer's, last November. My husband and I moved in with her about 2 months ago. Dad passed away last June. A number of months ago Mom would tell us about Dad working on a house across town that was identical in every way, inside and out, to her house. She marveled at it…
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How do I handle the passing of my ADLO's sister from the same disease?
My wife's sister, Jennie, lives 2 hours away and has been in a memory care unit for three years. Her husband visited her every day. She has just been put in palliative/hospice care and will pass away soon. My wife Linda has ES, still fully physically functional, can play mahjong and solitaire, but can't remember what took…
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Mom Was Served
Good evening/morning/afternoon everyone! Yesterday was kind of a shock and I'm looking for some guidance. My mother got served court papers for a dental procedure she had never paid for. Long story short about 5 years ago she was told prior to the procedure that it would be covered by insurance, however once the procedure…
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Replacing hearing aids
My mother is in skilled nursing facility with mid-stage dementia. She has hearing aids and has lost one of them. It is normal for her to have them come out during the day and need to be put back in. We had them on a cord attached to her shirt but she still managed to lose one. My quandary is- to I replace the missing aid?…
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Sister Refusing to Get Ready This Morning
This morning, my sister was having difficulty with the buttons on her pj top. She has gained some weight so the top buttons pop open. We need to buy her some different PJs without buttons. She & I are the only ones in the house so it rarely bothers her that she goes to the bathroom with some buttons undone. In the…