Asking for Help

I'm new here, but desperate for help with handling these difficult things, and feeling like I'm really botching this pretty badly. A little over a year ago, I moved in to look after my Mom, who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's when she was still somewhere in the middle stages. My family was never good with communication or…

As the title states, I’m wanting to know the wheres, whats, whens, whos, hows, and whys do you utilize the most? Not getting much help from my dad’s (newly diagnosed early onset Alzheimer’s) doctor. When I asked for some recommendations (medicine management, in home care, support groups, etc.), all I got was checkout the…

I am a 63 yo Psychotherapist getting tested for possible ALZ. I have been thru 2 different blood draws, a brain MRI, and a recent amyvid PET scan. The PET scan once again showed things that suggest ALZ. I have not seen the Neurologist yet to go over the results. I single, no kids and am attempting to figure out where I can…

I am one of 7 children. My mother just passes away 2 months ago, and my dad was just diagnosed with Alzheimer's. My siblings and I have been trying to care for him by taking turns, but it seems like it's not going to work this way. We all have full time jobs and families. I go back to work in a week and I am stressed that…

New here - Mom has been in MC for a year (this week actually), she still asks when she is going home and her anger and agitation has increased. We did not take her out of the facility for several months following her admission but have done so more recently (breakfast, shops, etc.) but the last two visits she seems to be…

I am new to this site. My significant other (SO), is battling Alzheimer's. I just need to know what I am able to do to make both our lives easier. I feel like I have already lost a lot of the man I married. He has good days and bad days. But, it has taken a toll on us. I am having to do the things he use to do along with…

I'm 39 and currently my 85 year old grandmother has dementia. I've been living with her for a number of years and 2 years ago she was officially diagnosed with dementia. For the past 4 months, she has been packing multiple bags daily to "go home" when she's already at the home she's lived in for the past 25 years. From…

My father is remembering that we used to have a kerosene heater in the home…like in the 1980’s. He keeps yelling at my sister because he feels she removed it from the home…now. She tries to reassure him that we had to get rid of it years and years ago due to my mom’s copd. Nevertheless, He keeps yelling at her because he…

My husband is in late stage dementia and the regressive changes are happening quickly. Sundowning at around 5 pm is a familiar pattern, and we have come up with some steps that reduce the effects. A new problem — In the morning, we're seeing something like sundowning. He might withdraw, he might get angry, it's a new thing…

Hello! My name is Aaliyah. I am 23. I was adopted by my grandparents when I was 2 months old. They've raised me without any help from my biological parents. In 2016, my freshmen year of highschool, I lost my grandfather to Alzheimer's. I took it insanely hard. I was one of the only ones he remembered in the end. I had…

My DH has ALZ, somewhere in Stage 3-4. Last night, we were having a conversation and he stopped mid-sentence with a blank look on his face. When he recovered a few seconds later, he realized that something was "off" and obviously very concerned about what had happened. He had forgotten what he was talking about. He was…

Hi all! I just joined needing support , advice, somewhere to vent. My mother has had several mini strokes (TIA) in the past few years. Since then she has rapidly declined with memory, decision making, daily functioning etc. She is now diagnosed with mixed dimentia (vascular dimentia and alzheimers). It explains her…

Hello, I am new to this community and looking for support and help. I am 78, and my husband is 5.5 years younger. I have spoken at length with my doctor about what's going on in my life, and she has been very supportive and suggested I come here for guidance. I have seen my husband's decline over the past several years,…

My father(86 yo), who from what I’ve read has recently entered Stage 6, he has been in a SNF since April. Until recently he has been fairly happy there and hasn’t complained much. I’m not sure most days he really understands where he is, often times he calls it his apartment or thinks he is at work. Other than the dementia…

Are there PAS/Caregiver/Attendant in San Antonio who is fluent in Korean to assist my 82-year-old mother on an hourly basis at her home in San Antonio (78239). There are larger Korean communities in Dallas, Houston, and Austin that I am aware of, but moving there is not an option. My mother has progressive dementia and…

I am about to move my parents into memory care in a few weeks. They are both 95 with stage 4/5 dementia. They have been living in assisted living for the past 4 years so the move would just be across the courtyard to a more secure facility with more support. My question for this group is when, how, or if to tell them they…

Over the past several months our beloved cat’s nasal tumor has grown larger and her quality of life and weight have deteriorated. DW is middle-stage dementia and can’t seem to remember our discussions of when to let the cat go. Last week we agreed that it was time and scheduled it with the vet for tomorrow. We’ve talked…

I would like to hear from anyone who is dealing with a spouse or LO who has this dx. My husband has been diagnosed with cerebral amyloid angiopathy—which seems to be the cause of this vascular dementia. We have been married since 1994. He is 79. This dx has turned him into basically a different person. He is 6'10" and has…

Hi Everyone, When I found this group, I knew it would be supportive. Just reading all of your responses has given me a little peace of mind. My mom is 93 and two years ago was diagnosed with possible early dementia after leaving her home at 11PM and walking to the hairdresser's. Nothing like this has ever happened again,…

Hello, I'm really glad I found this resource and hope I can get some support from online. Brief history: I live about 6 hours from my family. About 10 years ago my mom had a TIA and was fine until about March last year, when she fell and hit her head--either another stroke or balance problems; no idea. My dad covered for…

Hello all. I’m so grateful for these groups. I’m just beginning my Dads journey and I’m alone and need guidance please !!! I am a paramedic for 35 years and have a lot of medical experience but I have ZERO experience with this disease. From what I’m learning this disease follows no normal patterns. I feel like a rookie…

Would becoming a certified dementia caregiver help me remotely manage my DO's care? I'm looking for more specific info on how to communicate with her and her anticipated caregivers. I'd appreciate the groups input on whether a certified caregiver seems to be more knowledgeable than non-certified caregivers. Thanks for…

Hello! I recently moved my 79 y/o brother in with me from a different state after the death of his wife last November. He is wheelchair bound with multiple sclerosis and has just been diagnosed with mid stage Alzheimer's. He's had a difficult time adjusting to the new changes and has no desire to meet people in this area.…

My father has recently lost the ability to drive and is particularly bored. My mom is home with him, but I know it's taxing for her, and all the children are located elsewhere, so we can't support. Can anyone offer suggestions so he isn't just on his phone all day?

Hi everyone, I wanted to share something that’s weighing on me after my recent visit with my husband. I spent a few hours with him yesterday at the nursing home, and while things went smoothly during lunch, he became anxious and started exit-seeking after. The toughest part is how his memories of these visits sometimes get…

My grandma has dementia and needs help doing things. She has been wanting moved every 5 mins to her chair and bed. She keep saying she don’t no what’s wrong and can’t see her dog in front of her everything is on repeat for her. How do I confront her or help her? Trying to not get upset but it’s hard