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Guilt of supporting from afar while other family members moved in
Hello, Grateful to find this community! Like me, I'm sorry we need to be here, but I'm relieved we can all lean on each other a bit. I live hours away from my Mom. We received results today from her neurologist about her brain health and he is of the opinion she has the early signs of Alzheimer's. We aren't surprised, but…
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Ways to have a meaningful visit
I posted about a year ago after my mother had cataract surgery. She seemed to develop dementia over night after the surgery. She was at home till December but kept going to the neighbors house and saying bizarre things. After monthly trips to the ER for this and that, and calling 911 several times they finally admitted her…
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Mom forgets that Dad has passed
We helped my mom move from her home of over 45 years into a retirement community last December. I'd say she's in Stage 5 of Alzheimer's, but still in independent living. She doesn't love it and hasn't embraced being around other people, mostly because she knows her memory is not good. She recently started forgetting…
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Grandma refuses to see psychiatrist
I'm primary caretaker to my Grammie, who has multi-infarct vascular dementia. She's still in early stages and very present, but has recently developed compulsive behaviors, heightened anxiety, and obsessive thinking. I'm not sure if she has anosognosia or is uncomfortable with acknowledging these issues, but she refuses to…
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Are white boards with reminders, names dates etc helpful
What is the best way to setup a need help setting up a whiteboard or something to write date, events, names, specific details to remind client and orient to present? Advice, tips and suggestions much appreciated!
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Communicating through art and color
My mom has dementia and as you know it's a struggle to manage emotions around it. Last year she moved into a nursing home, which was hard at first, but it's actually been the best thing for her and me. Since she's living there, I've found new ways to communicate with her as she can't have a conversation like she used to.…
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Help! Handling hyper chatter..?!
Hello, brave caregiver! This issue is hardly the worst thing that Dementia has to offer, but I can’t seem to find communication tips that cover it! I don’t know how how to talk to, or even around, my dad! He and my mom (87 & 86) are together in memory care. Her dementia appears pretty minor, but my dad has no short term…
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Role of natural supplements in support of cure for Alzheimer's
I have closely seen many patients with Alzheimer's . And this really breaks my heart. Just last week I came across an article which talks about natural supplements and their potential benefit to support the cure for many decisions. How you guys feel about natural supplements do share your views. Also if anyone using them…
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Helping Dad
So I’m just getting home from driving 45 minutes each way to diffuse an argument between my parents. Mom has dementia and dad is doing his best, but loses patience and gets upset with her when she gets confused. This leads to fighting, but then she can’t convey why they’re arguing she just knows she’s upset. I’m unable to…
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Not using the toilet
My almost 79 year old mother is going to the bathroom in a bucket because she thinks we’ve had a guy out at the house stating that the plumbing is bad. I’ve tried putting notes up in each of the bathrooms that the plumbing is working. I’ve told me mother that I’m not using a bucket as my bathroom. Anything I say her…
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Resources for nursing home patient
My mother has Altheimer's and was admitted to a Nursing Home facility just few weeks ago. I have researched in my area and couldn't find a place with bilingual staff and/or bilingual patients. I wonder if there is a local resource that provides visitation for patients like my mom who don't speak English. My mom's native…
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Communicating a Move into Memory Care
Hello. I've been overseeing care (mental, physical, financial, etc.) for my 96 year old Uncle for 4 years. He has been in assisted living and now needs to move into a memory care situation. What is the best way to tell him? Do I tell him or do I arrange for his things to moved one day while we are out and bring him back to…
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How do I make the decision to move my Mom?
We just moved my 82yr. old Mother in with my husband and I knowing that she has stage 4-5 dementia. I should have done my research prior to the move because I am just beside myself and have started having small emotional breakdowns myself. She has been here for only 2.5 months but I may have taken on more than I can…