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Long Distance Care for Parent with Dementia
I am struggling trying to keep up with my step-mother, who has been diagnosed with Dementia. In 2024 she went in for knee surgery and had a cardiac arrest. Since then it has been downhill. I feel like I'm living in the movie "Groundhog Day" living the same day over and over. I have three siblings who live closer to her,…
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Struggling
I posted back in April about my mother and struggling then. My Dad had also had hip surgery and everything spiraled out of control. Anyway things did calm down once my Dad recovered and was able to better manage the concept of working with my mother instead of against her Alzheimer's. However things have of course…
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Moderate Urinary Incontinence Management
Hello friends, Dad (79) is in an assisted living, not full nursing home. He really likes it there and our goal is he can stay there as long as possible. Urinary incontinence is happening more, but he can still get to the bathroom or be reminded to go and it's ok. The facility doesn't have a person who would help with that.…
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Mom needs more help than assisted living memory care
My mom was living in an assisted living memory care facility up until she broke her hip and had surgery. The hospital she was at lied and told the rehab facility that my mom has ‘a little confusion’, so the rehab facility accepted her to be transferred there. The hospital did not tell the rehab facility the severity of her…
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Decision to Move Dad into Nursing Home?
I'm brand new here and could really use some support from people who have been through something similar. I'm an only child, and my 73-year-old dad has several serious medical conditions, including end-stage renal failure and a previous stroke that left him with speech aphasia. My mom died five years ago, so I'm the only…
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Anger and depression
My father has been declining rapidly mentally. His depression hasn't been able to be controlled with meds and he keeps getting meaner. He's in denial but sometimes I think what I say actually makes it to his thinking process sometimes but is often turned around on me and it's my fault or something I did or didn't do. I'm…
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I'm new here, my first post - how can I best help my mom?
My mother is 77 years old, living independently, and diagnosed with dementia/mild cognitive impairment, along with anxiety and depression. My father passed 3 years ago, after they were married 50 years. This was followed by the passing of my brother (my mom's youngest son) at 32 just last August. She has lived in the same…
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Lack of showering
Our father has been going for extended periods (40 days at a time) without showering or changing his clothes, which has led to skin lesions. He also has incontinence issues on top of it. We are limited in our ability to intervene due to legal restrictions making these challenges difficult to address, especially when faced…
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My Mom No Longer Remembers Me ........
I live about an hour flight from my Mom and have been visiting her around every month or so. This trip she was asked who i was and one time she said "my sister," and another time "my sister-in-law." When someone told her i was her daughter she looked absolutely shocked. Yesterday we were looking at pictures and she pointed…
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What happens between dementia appointments?
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Need to vent- Struggling as a F 29 y/o caring for Dad
I don’t even know where to begin. I’m just looking to vent and feel seen as I feel most of my friends do not understand and I have no family. My dad is 84 and was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia about 4 years ago. My parents divorced when I was young and I have 1 younger sister. When dad was no longer able to live…
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Hitting a break wall...
My loved one was a college adjunct professor with almost 40 years of teaching and research under her belt. And when COVID hit, she and many other adjunct professors were let go! That was when the super active brain suddenly stopped, like hitting a break wall. The depression followed, no desire to do any more studies or…
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Sundowning and Frontal Temporal Dementia.
Nan is 93 and has had Dementia for about 14 years now. Has slowly gotten worse rather than sharp declines. We are now starting to get sundowning creeping in. Its a run of 7 days of it so far, I'm literally so exhausted i have no idea how i am functioning. She gets up about 1am thinking its 8am, and insists she needs to be…
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Mom plans to smuggle meds into AL
UGH. I'm so tired of dealing with this immaturity! My mom has been having lots of back pain, but she refuses any sort of medical help for it, aside from Tylenol. As is common with AL, medications, including OTC, are not allowed in her room and must be dispensed by the staff. She knows this, she understands this, and she…
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Conservatorship Process
Father is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and is prone to shopping sprees, scams, and donating money, but doesn’t pay his taxes, bills, and maxes out credit cards. He’s in debt $500k, but denies any problem with his actions or Alzheimer’s diagnosis from his neurologist. Would like first hand experience with establishing a…
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After 10 long years mom has died, now what?
It was 10 years ago that I realized my mother's forgetfulness was more than just normal aging. The reality hit me like a ton of bricks, and nobody else in the immediate family wanted to face it or do any future planning. I had a general dread of what the future could hold but maintained hope that we could still find a way…
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I need to vent about my grandmother and an endless cycle.....
I'm 39 and currently my 85 year old grandmother has dementia. I've been living with her for a number of years and 2 years ago she was officially diagnosed with dementia. For the past 4 months, she has been packing multiple bags daily to "go home" when she's already at the home she's lived in for the past 25 years. From…
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Advice Needed After Moving My YOA Mom from AL to MC
I posted here a while back when my mom was first diagnosed with ALZ and I was trying to move her from FL to GA to be closer to me. She’s 65, I’m 30, and I’ve been her POA for about a year. She’s divorced, so this has all been pretty overwhelming at times. After a really tough few months, my sister and I were able to get…
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Thoughts on taking Mom for hometown visit?
My mom moved into AL near me, 2.5 hours away from her house, in April. She has adjusted fairly well, only occasionally talking about the possibility of someday moving back to her house, but for the most part, accepting of her current situation (even if somewhat grudgingly). She was notified recently that my dad's headstone…
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Prepared for so much EXECPT every new symptom my Dad has.
My DD stage 4 has been doing really well. He adapted to the lifestyle changes, the MIND diet. His MRI & bloodwork results are encouraging. He wanted to take a trip with me to see my daughter in Law School (it’s always been his dream to have an attorney in the family) we live in PA she is in IL. The plan was to fly out…
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Sexual aggression in MC
First post here...my dad was diagnosed with vascular dementia last summer. We recently had to move him into MC. He was adjusting well, but then he began exposing himself to others and some touching between him and others. He was moved out of MC onto a regular nursing home floor. A few days ago, the night nurse found him…
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Seeking Advice: Managing Toilets with Dementia Behaviors
My father has late-stage dementia and is exhibiting challenging behaviors that are making it difficult to maintain our home. He’s been pouring food down the toilets, which has caused clogs and damage. He also removed the bolts from one toilet, breaking the wax seal, and it’s now unusable. He’s fixated on guarding the…
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Father Angry & Unhappy in SNF
My father(86 yo), who from what I’ve read has recently entered Stage 6, he has been in a SNF since April. Until recently he has been fairly happy there and hasn’t complained much. I’m not sure most days he really understands where he is, often times he calls it his apartment or thinks he is at work. Other than the dementia…
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Cataract surgery for someone between Stage 5 and Stage 6?
Hi all, My mom has advanced Alzheimers and Vascular Dementia. I guess it is between stage 5 and stage 6. She gets full time care in a skilled nursing home. She can´t do any daily tasks without assistance (though the nurse sets her up to wash her own face and brush her own teethI, can´t walk, needs a machine to take her to…
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Good news (I think)
My Dad was originally diagnosed with MCI Stage 3 and then the doctor upgraded him to Stage 4. He just had his MRI & blood work done. No proteins found in his blood and the MRI was not bad at all. He had Mild changes consistent with his age & Hypertension history. The doctor wants to give him another cognitive test to…
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How to manage putting a pet down
Over the past several months our beloved cat’s nasal tumor has grown larger and her quality of life and weight have deteriorated. DW is middle-stage dementia and can’t seem to remember our discussions of when to let the cat go. Last week we agreed that it was time and scheduled it with the vet for tomorrow. We’ve talked…
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Dad recently diagnosed
Hello all. I’m so grateful for these groups. I’m just beginning my Dads journey and I’m alone and need guidance please !!! I am a paramedic for 35 years and have a lot of medical experience but I have ZERO experience with this disease. From what I’m learning this disease follows no normal patterns. I feel like a rookie…
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Her Sun Has Risen...
I know the discussion title is a little unusual, but I chose to title it that way to reflect her freedom from the disease on this side of life. That's how I like to think of it anyway in order to retain some sort of sanity. My mom, diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2018, transitioned in late-August of this year. I am her only…