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DH is gone. I am numb.

Jesse died this morning at 10:47 am. There are no words for how empty I feel.
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  • John1965
    John1965 Member Posts: 104
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    You have my sympathy.
  • ladyzetta
    ladyzetta Member Posts: 1,028
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    O MY.  Lady Texan I am so sorry for your loss. You were a very loving and caring wife for your DH. Please take care of yourself you're in a lot of prayers right now. Please get some rest and know your DH is in a better place right now. Hug Zetta
  • M1
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    Oh LT. My heart is with you.

  • Quilting brings calm
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    I’m so sorry for your loss.   Please rest as you can.Do whatever seems right to you in the moment. Come back to us when you are ready.
  • loveskitties
    loveskitties Member Posts: 1,075
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    So very sorry for your loss.  

    I hope that as you navigate these next days, weeks, months that you can find peace.

  • Mint
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    (((LadyTexan))),  I am so very sorry.
  • Battlebuddy
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    I’m so so sorry. Such a terrible disease. But you were an amazing wife to him. I hope as the days go on you find comfort in that. You were so great to us too. Sending support and love your way
  • Gig Harbor
    Gig Harbor Member Posts: 564
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    I am so sorry for your sadness and loss. You were such a strong caregiver and supporter of Jesse.
  • Joydean
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    Lady T, my heart is hurting for you. May God give you peace when the time is right. Praying for strength for you! Hold on to the best memories of Jesse and the love you two shared.
  • JoseyWales
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    (((Lady Texan)))

    I'm so, so sorry. 

    You were with him until the very end. You're an inspiration to many of us.

  • A losing hand.
    A losing hand. Member Posts: 44
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    L.T.   Sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself.

       

  • Paris20
    Paris20 Member Posts: 502
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    I am so very sorry. May his memory in better times be a blessing.
  • fireflies
    fireflies Member Posts: 23
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    I am sorry for your loss.  Prayers.
  • June45
    June45 Member Posts: 365
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    LadyTexas...Praying that you feel the peace of God that surpasses all understanding.
  • Lills
    Lills Member Posts: 156
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    Oh LT!  I am so very sorry for your loss!  I am grieving with you!
  • Iris L.
    Iris L. Member Posts: 4,306
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    Lady Texan, please accept my condolences in the loss of your dear husband.  

    Iris

  • 60 falcon
    60 falcon Member Posts: 201
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    You've been a wonderful caregiver for Jesse.  It's been such a long hard road for the both of you and you gave him love and care through it all. I hope you're able to find peace in the days ahead.
  • Vitruvius
    Vitruvius Member Posts: 323
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    My sincere condolences for your loss. May peace be with you.
  • Lorita
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    L.T. - so sorry for your loss.  You both fought a good fight.  Jesse is well now, no more confusion or pain.  Maybe that will be of some comfort to you.  You'll be in my prayers tonight.
  • JJ401
    JJ401 Member Posts: 312
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    I am so sorry. He and you fought the good  fight.
  • Beachfan
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    I am so sorry.  You fought so valiantly on his behalf.  May you find peace and strength in the days ahead and above all, gratitude for all that you shared with your Jesse. Rest.
  • Jeff86
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    Heartfelt condolences to you, LT, on Jesse’s passing.  You were such a superb navigator on so very difficult a journey.   Your devotion to caregiving for your DH has been an inspiration. 

    I hope that as the shock subsides, you will find peace, and the space to remember better days.  
  • ButterflyWings
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    (((Oh LT)))- even though we know in our minds that something is coming, it still can take our breath away when it actually occurs. Holding you in my heart. I pray that your faith and the strength that has carried you throughout this journey will be increased ten-fold in stage 8 and beyond. 

    Your excellent care for your beloved husband, Jesse, has been demonstrated over and over, under the most challenging of circumstances and you have consistently made the best of your difficult choices. I am so sorry for your loss and pain yet praising God that his suffering is over, and trusting that you will recover and heal in your own time. We are here for you as you have been for so many, even in the midst of the most challenging journey that I can imagine. Well done..."good and faithful" are truly appropriate terms to describe your service - both to your DH and to this forum family. Thank you. Praying with, and for you, and may he rest in perfect peace.

  • Pat6177
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    LT, I am so sorry for your loss. My most sincere condolences.
  • ImMaggieMae
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    LT, in the short time I’ve been on this forum, I’ve been in awe of your love and strength during this terrible ordeal. I wish you comfort and strength in the days and months ahead. And most of all, I wish you peace.
  • French
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    LadyTexan, I feel really sorry for your loss. All my remote sympathies.
  • harshedbuzz
    harshedbuzz Member Posts: 4,361
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    Please accept my heartfelt condolences.

    HB
  • Ed1937
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    Lady, you have gone above and beyond what any caregiver should have to give. I am really surprised that your health hasn't hit bottom with all you've been through. He was a very lucky man to have you. I'm sorry now is time for more pain, and I hope God gives you everything you need to get through this. We're still here for you, even though your job is now done.
  • dayn2nite2
    dayn2nite2 Member Posts: 1,132
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    I'm sorry for your loss.  He is no longer suffering in this life at least.
  • toolbeltexpert
    toolbeltexpert Member Posts: 1,583
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    I am so sorry for your loss. You were an excellent caregiver. I will continue to pray for you. May God strengthen you and give you His peace.

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