Ordering Supplements

Birdie456

Hello, this is my first post here, though I have read through many discussions and found them insightful and therapeutic. My DH was diagnosed with AD last year, had been showing symptoms of dementia for several years, and had a previous diagnosis of MCI.

For several years, he's been ordering various supplements that claim to improve memory, reverse AD, help with sleep, or improve urinary issues. He has spent thousands of dollars on these supplements, and of course, the companies that sell these products know he's an easy target. He falls for their 'discount' by ordering a case of bottles every time. Some of the products appear to help with memory, but most need to be returned within a specific timeframe. DH is not able to manage this effectively, so we have dozens and dozens of bottles of pills he isn't taking that he can't return.

I had him sign an agreement stating that he wouldn't place any further orders. He's violated it at least six times since. When I try to discuss it, he yells, "Just STOP IT!"

We cancelled his credit card last year, but he now uses his debit card to make online purchases. I get alerts for any purchases over $100, which is usually how I find out he's placed another order. If I take the card away, I will have a big fight, and he will have no means to buy his fast-food meals, gas, or any other purchases.

Has anyone else faced the supplement battle and had success in stopping the flow of pills in and money out?

Thank you,

Birdie456

harshedbuzz

Why would a PWD have access to the internet? Change the WiFi password. Tell him it's down.

Quilting brings calm

You either cancel his debit card, somehow reduce the allowed charges on it to a low price and/ or change the internet password. He’s proven over and over he can’t be trusted with the card or to be responsible with money. You must save your financial security regardless of what he wants.

Stan2

You mentioned he needs the card to buy gas. If he has been diagnosed with AD he should not be driving. It puts you in a very bad liability position in the event of an accident.

trottingalong

First off, if all of that is happening, he should NOT be driving. Secondly, I would either make that debit card disappear or close that account and open another that he doesn’t know about. You can have him sign agreements til you are blue in the face. With a broken brain, theres a lack of comprehension, memory and so many other things. There is no reasoning at this point.