Angry forever?

My mother has also been experiencing aggressive behavior, primarily towards my father. She’s been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and appears to be in the middle stages of the disease. I’ve spoken to her about them moving closer to me in efforts to place them in an assisted living facility (she doesn’t want to stay with my family). My mother remains independent with her activities of daily living, but her confusion and hostility makes it difficult between her and my father. Medication management for her condition is becoming increasingly difficult. She doesn’t want to move near me, and my father is very stressed about her condition.

There comes a time when the patient can no longer be part of the decision making. The POA has to make those decisions for them. If your dad has POA then he’s the decision maker. If your dad is on board then move your mom. If you’re POA (hopefully) then you make the decision. While your mom is having an aggressive episode, video it, call 911 and have her taken to a hospital and admitted to the geriatric psyche wing. Any aggressions will likely need to be managed before a dementia facility will accept her anyway. I personally didn’t experience placing my mom or having to call 911 but I read these recommendations here from very wise supportive folks. I did have to move my mom across state lines though.

Im very sorry for all who have to manage these things for their LO! It’s all so very difficult!