So Where Do We Go From Here? This is an old thread revisited

So sorry for your loss.

Rick, my deepest condolences on the passing of your dear wife. Wishing you peace.

Rick, so sorry for your loss. She was lucky to have you. My DH passed peacefully Monday August 12. He was diagnosed in 2021 and I had to place him in memory care in January due to my cancer diagnosis. He moved quickly from Stage 6 to Stage 7. The last 6 weeks he went downhill quickly. I miss him so much it hurts but am thankful he’s no longer suffering. I hope to travel again. We spent the last 20 years traveling in our RV. I will visit family in other states and see our new great grandchildren. I moved in with my daughter & son-in-law so I don’t have a home to care for. I miss that. I like doing genealogy so I’ll start that again. I’d like to volunteer at the VA veterans nursing home where my husband received excellent care but I’m not ready for that yet. I will do things to honor him. We were married almost 39 years. Unfortunately I’ll have scans every 3 months to make sure the cancer isn’t back. Live every moment. Your wife would want that. Sending hugs.

So sorry to hear of your wife’s passing. Best of luck in stage 8.

Rick, Deepest Sympathy to you. I too am in stage 8 as of last Nov. We were married just shy of 40 yrs and he had been in MC for 15 months . Prior to that I took care of him for over 7 yrs and he had brain surgery almost 6 yrs ago and of course that made his Alzheimer's advance. I am in the independent living apartment we shared for 5 yrs as I had to sell the house after his brain surgery and his rehab. The MC was in another bldg next door.

I too am sure I gave him the best care possible. I soon will be 85 and really don't have the resources financially to do any traveling and I also have fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome so I am not very peppy. I have family who live far away but they do come to visit every few months. This may sound weird but he is buried in a cemetery that is just a few blocks away. I visit him every so often and am so relieved he no longer has to suffer from this horrible disease. He was diagnosed 7 and 1/2 yrs ago. Truthfully I don't know how I made it physically and of course have had some bouts of crying but I am doing ok now. We had a fabulous life prioe to the diagnosis and he retired at age 58. He died at age 93. I am hoping you too can find some joy in life and it sounds like you are making great strides toward that goal.

@RickM I am just now seeing your post. My heart goes out to you. Even though it is a relief for both you and your precious wife to finally be free of this disease, I am so very sorry — for Dementia Land — for everything it entails.

I wish you peace, health, and the time and space to grieve and recover fully. You have been a great caregiver and spouse to her, and a valued forum mate. Sending virtual hugs at this tough time.

Rick, I am so sorry for your loss. Peace and strength to you and your family.