Early onset at age 60

I found that this group is the best—although many people here are much older than we are, the support is invaluable. I also think people dealing with younger onset are more common here than in other support settings.

Early on I went to a local support group, although I had to take time off work to do so. That was really helpful in understanding people's perceptions, but most of all in recommendations for memory care facilities. I placed my dh 11 days after his 60th birthday.

Absolutely agree with PBS and the others this is the best place to learn, to vent, to virtual cry. The understanding and compassion that comes from this group is much more valuable and knowledgeable than any of the professionals that I have talked to. Wonderful wonderful members.

I am so sorry for your situation. My spouse says the same thing. But when I pose that question to him to get his opinion on something he has a hard time remembering how we did something before that worked in that specific situation. I have had to take over driving (which my husband hates). I ask my spouse often “I’m here to help you but you treat me like I’m the one doing this to you.” I get he is lashing out. But man it’s hard to take because his dad is so easy going through his journey with dementia. He just accepts everything that is happening.

Sounds as if my DW is a bit further along in her journey but when she asks or mentions wanting to get or be better I just keep assuring her she is doing fantastic and if she questions me further or more deeply I say it again and add especially given "our" circumstances. She seems to take this as assurance she is doing okay and things are good (they're not). Keep trying, you will find the right words that make a difference for your DH.