Packing up to go to other home

My DH is in MC now, but when he was home he used to want to go to the other "home." I used to drive him around for 15 minutes and then go back home and announce "we're here!" Sometimes it worked and sometimes it didn't. Good luck with this problem, I found it to be very stressful, especially when DH started waking up in the middle of the night wanting to go home or school or work. The problem has almost stopped since he has been in MC.

My DH did the very something thing during Stage 6. He would pack the car every afternoon and then yes the next morning say who put all this stuff in the car and unpack it. Unfortunately this lasted well over a year. We are in Texas and was particularly bad in the summer when it was so hot. He would sweat through all clothes to where he had to be changed. Nothing really helped with the packing. Medication did help with the wanting to go home. It still happened but with the medicine it was easier to redirect or accept the fiblets I would use. The packing the car was just what he did to be busy. Now that he is early Stage 7 he now stays inside more and just moves my shoes around that are at the hall bench in baskets. Takes me longer to find two shoes that match, but not a real big deal.

so sorry this is happening. Arguing won’t help. Telling he’s home won’t help. They want to go “home” due to anxiety. They no longer know where home is. Talk to the doctor. Meds will help. Try fibbing and redirect or distract. Tell him the car won’t start or is in the shop. Can you hide the car? There are locks you can put on the doors so he can’t go out. That should come soon anyway. Not much you can do about the packing but you could hide all but a few things and give him a suitcase to “pack” and tell him you’ll go tomorrow. Fib again and tell him they are working on the house that he thinks is his other home. It’s so sad. Hugs.

This wanting to go to “our house” is the hardest thing I have ever dealt with. Sometimes it’s a few houses away, other times it’s next door. He packs sometimes and just wants to go other times. I’m exhausted from it and my stomach is in knots every night. We just doubled his Seroquel and he’s a little less angry, but still always ready to go home.

So very sorry to see that the med change was just a short-lived win. Could there have been other factors that day, like getting out of the house, etc. that led to a good next day? At our house, my DH's keys were lost. He misplaced his car key in a cup holder in the car which I found later and then tucked away. So the only keys to the car are mine and stay in a zipper compartment in my purse. I send him looking for his keys (which lasts about a minute before he is bored and lets it go). Of course that won't work for you when he has moved/tossed your purse. :-( I will say that I look at what is in the trash cans something like 4 times a day. I often pull out pants and underwear that are soiled or inside out and "don't work anymore." I can get them to the laundry where they are "fixed." Don't know if "lost" keys will work for you, but just a thought.

I have told my neighbors my husband has dementia. I also said he doesn’t realize it, but dies get confused. It would be good to tell them.

My husband went through a period of wanting to go to his house on the hill. He would argue with me, demand that I take him. He also would get an armful of clothes and leave. I'd look for him and find him outside in his pajamas at 2 am. It was as stressful as the phase of repeatedly asking the same question. It does stop eventually.