Days Out for MC Resident?

it’s a tough question. I think if you’re asking because of his behaviors it may be time. Can you join him for dinner at the MCF instead? Can you plan it so he just comes for dinner and then you take him back right away? Anxiety is common and so is sadness and crying. Something may trigger those behaviors like change of scenery. He doesn’t remember your house or that he’s been there before so that may cause anxiety. So sorry. I know this is difficult. 💜

My mom is not in memory care yet, but will be soon. If what you described happened with my mom, it would be a sign to me that days out of MC were at an end. You are to be commended for your efforts in giving your father these outings, but remember that you count too. There is a higher likelihood of him falling when you take him out (getting in and out of cars, uneven ground, etc.). This could injure you as well.

Since his MC offers programming, I would look at the schedule and see what might appeal to him and make a visit out of that. He would probably really enjoy doing it if you're there with him. That would take some pressure off of you having to entertain him.

Oh gosh, I am right there with you. What we are starting to do now are just very short outings—going out to eat very close by for only an hour tops, sometimes we just drive around the nearby lake with the windows down. I am thinking that the holidays last year were probably the last time we bring my dad to my home. It's sad to me but I have to remember that the distress I feel over not taking him out is probably affecting me more than it is him. It's so helpful to read these responses.