Assisted living room changes

IBMSJ
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My mom has been at the assisted living facility since October 2023. She is in a 2-room apartment, which we originally selected due her having 2 senior male dogs. At this point, the dogs are no longer there, and my mom is transitioning from moderate to severe. I was asked by the staff at the facility today how I would feel about moving her to a 1-room apartment, in their opinion, it would help her to be in a smaller space, eliminating confusion about moving from the living room to bedroom. I have no idea what to do; we started with hospice about a month ago (they felt she needed more one-on-one care) she's already declining, and I am scared of doing anything that could make it worse. I don't know that it's just "to make it easier" on my mom, I'm sure they would have no issue getting someone else in the room (maybe at a higher cost). but I will admit my mom does not spend a lot of time in the room, its mainly just when she's ready to go to sleep. She recently developed venous stasis ulcer on her left ankle because she's just not active at this point and I'm terrified of making the wrong move. Has anybody else dealt with anything like this?

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  • sandwichone123
    sandwichone123 Member Posts: 1,399
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    My spouse has changed rooms twice as his care needs changed, and each time the space is more simple. From closed cabinets to open shelves to less storage overall as the pwd's ability to deal with complexity decreases. I stopped bringing knick-knacks from home as he didn't seem to relate to them any more and they just added to the confusion. I think the staff is probably right about her doing better in a simpler space at this point.

  • H1235
    H1235 Member Posts: 2,399
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    I would definitely avoid involving her in the move as little as possible. If she is not getting around well, maybe a wheelchair ride around the facility while others move the essentials in to the new room. Then bring her to the new room. If she comments on it not being the right room p, give a short simplified explanation for the move.

  • terei
    terei Member Posts: 985
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    DO not involve her in the move. Move everything while she is not there, or occupied + just move her into the new place. She may not even notice, you might be surprised. If she does notice, simply give her any excuse that you want ‘there was a leak in your old place + they need to fix it…..whatever.

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