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Sjeffreys
Sjeffreys Member Posts: 7
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Super sexed DH

II feel like I am the only 75+ caregivers whose husband is constantly wanting to make love or touch, lay with, hug or kiss me. Do others deal with this and shadowing?

Does anyone have help or suggestions? I'm over loved😗

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  • easy23
    easy23 Member Posts: 271
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    Sorry you're having this problem. Search the term "hypersexual" on the search bar of this forum (the magnifying glass in the upper right of your screen). There's lots of good information there.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 1,819
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    very common unfortunately. Medications can help. Talk to his doctor and be honest with the doctor about the behavior.

  • justbreathe2
    justbreathe2 Member Posts: 128
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    Yes, I have the same problem with my DH. It is very wearing on me. Our first appointment with geriatric doctor I gave her a note asking about medications. She could start him on a psychotic medication for it, but there are side effects. He is in moderate stage and takes Donepezil and Zoloft now. Normally she does not start psychotic meds until he should start wandering or hallucinations, but would prescribe something if I wanted.

    I decided to hold off for now. Just not ready to deal with additional side effects. Some weeks it’s worse than others. I do talk to him about it and only helps a little.

  • gentlewoman
    gentlewoman Member Posts: 1
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    I'm 82 and my DH with moderate dementia has started behaving the same way. This is a change that has happened over the last few months.

    I hate to say no all the time, so I comply sometimes. The two of us live by ourselves in our own home. So far there has been nothing inappropriate in public or in front of other people, but my resentment is building up. Conversations with DH about this are not helpful. Suggestions welcome.

  • l7pla1w2
    l7pla1w2 Member Posts: 285
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    I had the reverse situation. My wife said she was horny. See this discussion:

    https://alzconnected.org/discussion/67983/horny

    This phase lasted about 18 months.

  • weareallunique
    weareallunique Member Posts: 82
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    Don't be hesitant about getting meds to see you through this period. Being a caretaker is difficult enough without having your intimate space, and hopefully loving memories, impacted.

    We can't know what the PWD may do in the future so curbing these behaviors so it doesn't happen in public is financially and legally prudent.

    Recent research shows that the addiction pathways can be impacted by dementia.

    https://news.stanford.edu/stories/2025/06/neural-maps-brain-reward-research-dementia-addiction

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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