Got the Job. Now What?

I was offered the job in Manhattan. Start date 10/20. 3 weeks from now. I should be celebrating, but it just complicates my situation.

I have three options, none of which seem very good:

1. Take the job, and move both me and my mom up there, somehow, in 3 weeks. Find new apartments in NY, break leases, hire moving company, figure out how to sell her grand piano in just 3 weeks, get our cars up there and my scooter, figure out what to do with patio furniture, and try to start the job and also somehow care for my mom (or find someone to check on her every day while I'm at work). But it's going to cost about $14 to move everything, and no idea if the job will reimburse me at all. It's unclear how she'll manage adjusting. Note: I did request if they could extend the start date if possible. I am waiting to hear from them.

2. Take the job, and move up there solo for starters. Only have to move my own stuff, and my car. I can leave my scooter here for now. Leave the patio furniture where it is. Spoke to a friend and he said for $1500/month, he would come and check on her every morning, and also take dog out for walk. Maybe manage her medications. That seems like a lot of money, though, for just 15 minutes per day. But I trust him. I feel for $1500/month, it should be a lot more services. I'd also have to find someone to check on her in evening to take the dog out. It's unclear how she'd manage here without me. If I do move her up later, that's another challenge. If she stays here and I stay in NY, that's another challenge.

3. I turn down the job, remain here in Miami with her, the status quo. It's the easy solution, but it also means I remain unemployed. Which is unsustainable, because I need money. And I need to think of my own future as well.

I was talking to a friend, and he said for purposes of Medicaid, Florida is absolutely the better place to be. But the thought of me leaving my mom alone here for even a few months doesn't sit right with me. But bringing her up is also a huge challenge. Apparently, after one year, I may be eligible for a transfer, and I could request Miami, and if so, we could move back down here, and take advantage of the Florida Medicaid rules. But I don't know. It's all so complicated. I'm wondering if I should speak to an elder care attorney both in NY and Florida prior to making any decision, or at least at some point over the next week or two.

Truly, though, NOT taking the job at all makes me smile, because there is much less stress. But it's just a bandaid——because the money will run out very quickly if I remain in the position I am in. And that will make things worse for both of us. And there is zero guarantee I will find a job down here, as I have been unemployed for 18 months and find it next to impossible to even get job interviews. I've had 1 in the last year and a half despite countless applications. This cannot go on.

So, after writing the above, I feel like the best option for the long term is moving to NY with her, taking the job, finding two adjacent apartments, and hiring someone to come help her while for a few hours per day while I'm at work. And figure out the medicare situation later. At least I would have an income and the financial bleed would stop (or at least slow down). And I would be on track to having a good steady long-term income to care for the both of us.

And I'm thinking this may make sense even if we have to pay the $14K in moving costs, because in the years ahead, I will be able to make up that short-term loss.

Does this make sense? Does anyone feel I missed any part of this analysis?

Thank you.