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I am so scared
I'm so scared of what this diagnosis means for me and my mom. I've worked with a number of Alz patients while working in emergency psychiatric departments or adult psychiatric departments. It was brutal. Devastating to their kids and devastating to see their moments of clarity, briefly realizing they are losing their…
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Taking Away The Credit Card
My father was recently diagnosed with Alz. He understands the situation. Always had a very argumentative relationship with my mother and there are some trust issues. Now I received this from my mom: "A few days ago, your father was listening to a medical sales pitch on the internet, he was convinced that it was a product…
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Angery Mother
I’m having major problems with my mom. Within the last four weeks if she doesn’t get her way, she will call me names not the nice ones either. I also moved in with her two years ago when she was first diagnosed with dementia she will also tell me that I need to move out. If she’s not getting her way. We have an appointment…
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Hello!
My dad was diagnosed with late on-set Alzheimer's dementia type with depression in October of 2024. Although I have suspected for 4 years before his diagnosis. I have been living with him for 15 years, so I noticed the changes in his memory and how his brain worked as it was happening. I also have a daughter with her own…
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From The Philadelphia Inquirer: Being Mom's Caregiver is Hard...
Surviving caregiving in a sibling group. HB
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New Here & Just Trying To Keep Up
I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed and alone, and I’m so thankful to have found this group. I’m 29 and live in Georgia. My mom is 65, lives alone in Florida, and was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. My parents are divorced, and my sister isn’t able to help due to her own challenges. My mom’s brother offered support…
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Alzheimer’s and stomach issues
Hello all, My mother continues to battle constipation, nausea, and gas on and off. Her appetite has definitely decreased, although she was never a big eater to begin with. We continue to encourage fluids and she eats mostly high fiber foods, but she is still having these issues more than not. I also give her Metamucil…
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Caregiving for the Caregiver
My MIL has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. It has been slow in its progression (15 years since initial diagnosis). My DH’s step-father is the primary caregiver and has done a fantastic job. However, my MIL is now firmly in Stage 4. We want to support DH’s step-father as best we can…but we don’t want to be pushy or make…
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Cared For Grandparents and Now Mother
Hello! I helped my mom care for her parents as they suffered with dementia and Alzheimer's for several years before they passed. It was physically, mentally and emotionally difficult on both of us and traumatizing for my mom especially. Now, 4ish years since her dad passed, my 60 y/o mom is showing her own signs. She's…
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Overwhelmed caregiver.
My mom just got diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia 6month ago. Sometimes she will be her normal self then she someone I don’t recognize. Someday I can get her to take her medication with no problem then another day she resist. I’m having hard time keeping the house clean because she leaves things everywhere and brings…
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Becoming a personal care surrogate
Hi! I am brand new to this group and so appreciate the networking with others who are navigating the care of a parent with Alzheimer’s. I’ve been trying to be proactive about this. My brother and I hired an elder law attorney. We established power of attorney for my brother and Healthcare proxy for both. He and I work…
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How to deal with violence
I posted this before but is getting worse and he thinks he is okay. Gets Up early and wanders around the house and says no to everything and lashes out when I tell him to go back to bed. I am not in love with him, just feel an obligation. Can I just leave him and never look back
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Moved husband to memory care and he just wants me
I brought my husband, who is in stage 6, to a memory care facility yesterday and today the director called me. I wasn't really surprised because my main concern was how dependent he is on me and how much he loves being home. Today, there was a woman who looked like me visiting another resident and he thought she was me and…
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Guardianship
I am the middle child, and the only girl. My mom has appointed me POA for both health and financial. Of course there has to one sibling that will not play by the rules, my oldest brother. He has recently purchased a vehicle in my mothers name. She didn't know what the heck was going on when I asked her about it and neither…
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DW Seizure
My DW who has been living with ALZ for 7 years (64 yr) had a seizure last week ( first one) about 9:30 AM in the morning. The seizure lasted about a min and to see your wife in convulsions was really shocking for me to and called 911. The EMT checked her out and although she was out of it all her vitals were ok and did not…
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Taking care of my Mom
My Mom has Dementia, still living home with my dad, and I go to their home every day to help them. She accuses my dad that he is having sex with a 13 year old girl along with me and my 2 other sisters. Some days she is good then other days really off the wall. I get very upset because I protect my dad. I know I shouldn’t…
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When both parents need support!
Hi everyone, This is my first post. My parents are both almost 79 and live in a 55+ community. My mom has moderate dementia, and my dad, who has Parkinson’s (and possibly some early cognitive issues himself), is her primary caregiver. One of the biggest challenges is helping him understand that my mom needs simple, clear…
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Caregiver
I want to be my dad’s caregiver and get paid for it. He only has Medicare. Any suggestions?
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NHTD waiver for my Mom living with me Stage 6 Alzheimer’s
hi everyone, I’m pretty new on this forum especially posting a discussion so I’m not really sure if I’m doing this correctly. I live in upstate New York and I am my mom’s soul care provider. I moved my mother into my home eight months ago and I’m still trying to tap into NHTD waiver services in our area. Is there anyone…
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My husband is dead
This morning my husband died from Alzheimer's disease. I am incredibly grateful his wretched journey with this disease is over. I did my best as a caregiver though I fell short as you would expect a human to do. I will greatly miss who my husband used to be, but I will never miss what he became as the disease took hold of…
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Recomendacion para un Geriatrico doctor que hable español en los angeles county?
Hola, mi mama (75) ayer fue diagnosticada con alzheimer's. Esta en las primeras etapas y el hipocampo apenas se esta agrandando. Tengo muchas preguntas pero no se ni donde empezar. Vivimos en los angeles, yo vivo con mi esposo y mi hermana mayor. Mi mama vive sola a 5min de nuestro apartamento y la visitamos diario. No…
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In Home care recommendations
Mom is diagnosed with dementia. We need some in home help and want to go with an agency but it's hard to know where to start. Looking for any recommendations you all have for in home agencies. We don't need a lot yet but will need more soon I think. Companionship, light meals and respite for her partner- the full time…
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What has changed in a year and a half
Greetings all. In September 2023, I moved both my parents into my home. My dear mom has Alzheimer's. My dear dad has mild cognitive impairment. They are 85 and 87 respectively. For more background, see the discussion at https://alzconnected.org/discussion/64542/moving-my-folks-into-my-house#latest btw - I copied and pasted…
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New to the group
Hi everyone, I am so relieved to have found this group. Mh (67) was diagnosed in January. Early stage of dementia. He is also a type 1 diabetic. I’m trying my best to cope and get through each day. It is hard to say the least. I say to myself, let’s have a good day! Some days are better than others. I have ordered the 36…
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Mobility concern
Hello everyone. My mother is 75 years old and was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia officially in 2020. Lately, my mom has been needing more help with walking around the house. Last week, she fell in the bathroom; she was looking in the mirror and just fell backwards. I’ve also noticed that she leans to her…
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Links to helpful videos
Hello all! I was looking through posts recently and found one that was from a woman who has a PhD in Dementia care. It was very informative and helpful for the stages of Alzheimers. But I cant remember where I saw it. If you know what I am talking about, please post the link here. Also, I would love any and all videos that…
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Help with getting a diagnosis
My DH has many AD symptoms. I've called his Drs office and notes were made to give to his med team. He refuses to let me accompany him for checkups. His false accusations, hallucinations and "hearing" things are really affecting my health. What more can I do, I'm at the point of leaving.
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Assisted living room changes
My mom has been at the assisted living facility since October 2023. She is in a 2-room apartment, which we originally selected due her having 2 senior male dogs. At this point, the dogs are no longer there, and my mom is transitioning from moderate to severe. I was asked by the staff at the facility today how I would feel…
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New here. Overwhelmed
I’m caring for my dad, 84. He’s at home. Still able to walk, bathe, use the bathroom and dress by himself. He gets so depressed, though. Just hangs his head almost to his chest. He often thinks we are at a home that looks like his, but it isn’t. He is getting more and more assertive when talking to me. I just needed to…