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Moving my mom in
My mom was starting to show signs of Alzheimer’s but she refused to admit it. I was doing all the work when she needed help or forgot things and finally had to step back for a few months so my brothers would step up. Now they see how bad it is and after a 2 am phone call they see she should not be living alone. The only…
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Is this Alzheimer's or Personality?
My mom is extemely mean to me at times. She has Alzheimer's and I have been taking care of her for 8 years. When I suggest something like for example, "You can put on your pajamas since its night time" She'll respond, "Yeah I'm not stupid, I know what I'm doing" I try to give her as much autonomy as I can, but she is in…
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Can’t get ADLO to understand he goes to social group only on Tuesday and Thursday
I need some advice. I can’t get my ADLO to understand that he goes to his social group only on Tuesday and Thursday. The five days that he is home are trying because he gets up and dressed to go and gets mad at me because I don’t take him there. He says that I don’t get it. Of course he doesn’t explain exactly what I don’t…
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What happens between dementia appointments?
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Trying to help primary caregiver
Personal status: secondary caregiver; grandson (Edited for accuracy: Grandpa in hospital on ventilator and ng tube, Grandma watching over him; I visit sometimes) What's something primary caregivers wish a family member/other caregiver had done for you and/or the patient? I visit occasionally and sometimes bring stuff from…
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Need to vent- Struggling as a F 29 y/o caring for Dad
I don’t even know where to begin. I’m just looking to vent and feel seen as I feel most of my friends do not understand and I have no family. My dad is 84 and was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia about 4 years ago. My parents divorced when I was young and I have 1 younger sister. When dad was no longer able to live…
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It's Me Again...
I would like to thank all of you that are giving me such good advice so for. My mom is in a confused/ delusional state all day no longer in and out. Even when speaking on the phone which use to break up the confusion but no longer does. The recent issue which I hate to mention this but I don't want to vent about this to…
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first time post
I joined because I feel like I could use some tips, advice and help. I don't do a bad job caring for my wife, but I could improve. I think I am sometimes too impatient with the seemingly endless challenging behaviors. There is rarely a single triggering issue, but usually the accumulation of behaviors, that makes my…
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Switching from daughter to caregiver… resources, advice, anything?
As the title states, I’m wanting to know the wheres, whats, whens, whos, hows, and whys do you utilize the most? Not getting much help from my dad’s (newly diagnosed early onset Alzheimer’s) doctor. When I asked for some recommendations (medicine management, in home care, support groups, etc.), all I got was checkout the…
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I am new to all of this.
My wife has been suffering short term memory loss for a few years and though I tried she would not see a doctor. Earlier this month she had a massive delusion. Forgot who I was after 49 years of marriage or that we have lived in our home for over 20 years. We went to the ER and I am still waiting to get a neurologist…
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comfy chair recommendations?
Hello everyone! Not sure if this question is overly specific, but wanted to see if anyone had thoughts to share! A goal that my Mom and I have is to get a new armchair for my Dad (83, diagnosed with general dementia) to sit in in the living room. Before he fell, he was sitting and sleeping in a big, deep, cushy La-Z-Boy…
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Sad, stressed, and need to talk to others
I am new to this site. My significant other (SO), is battling Alzheimer's. I just need to know what I am able to do to make both our lives easier. I feel like I have already lost a lot of the man I married. He has good days and bad days. But, it has taken a toll on us. I am having to do the things he use to do along with…
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What has changed in a year and a half
Greetings all. In September 2023, I moved both my parents into my home. My dear mom has Alzheimer's. My dear dad has mild cognitive impairment. They are 85 and 87 respectively. For more background, see the discussion at https://alzconnected.org/discussion/64542/moving-my-folks-into-my-house#latest btw - I copied and pasted…
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How much sleeping is "too much"
Hi, new to this community and have many questions, but the one that's top of mind today is that my DH, who was diagnosed with VD but also elevated levels of Alzheimer's last summer, seems to be slipping away faster all the time. He's now very weak and wants to sleep almost all the time. We've been letting him eat breakfast…
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Prepared for so much EXECPT every new symptom my Dad has.
My DD stage 4 has been doing really well. He adapted to the lifestyle changes, the MIND diet. His MRI & bloodwork results are encouraging. He wanted to take a trip with me to see my daughter in Law School (it’s always been his dream to have an attorney in the family) we live in PA she is in IL. The plan was to fly out…
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Looking for advice
My DH has ALZ, somewhere in Stage 3-4. Last night, we were having a conversation and he stopped mid-sentence with a blank look on his face. When he recovered a few seconds later, he realized that something was "off" and obviously very concerned about what had happened. He had forgotten what he was talking about. He was…
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Stressed Rambling Because I'm new to This
Hi everyone, my mother was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's and I started living with her about a month ago because she requires full time care. She was able to hide her mental decline for a long time because she has always been very independent, and we didn't have the best relationship. She is already in stage 5 or…
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Alzheimer’s and autonomy
Hello. I’m new here and I have a father diagnosed with late onset Alzheimer’s. I take him to all of his various appointments but I don’t quite understand why the providers rely on him for answers on his health. Sure I can provide some of the information but questions about his own depression levels or nausea only he can…
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Just moved mom in
Our mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's at 65…it's been a long journey with several moves but today at 79 we moved her into my home for hospice care. She can't talk and is so frail and stiff, my only hope is I've done the right thing for her and my sister and I. I keep wondering if I did the right thing and will I be able…
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Good news (I think)
My Dad was originally diagnosed with MCI Stage 3 and then the doctor upgraded him to Stage 4. He just had his MRI & blood work done. No proteins found in his blood and the MRI was not bad at all. He had Mild changes consistent with his age & Hypertension history. The doctor wants to give him another cognitive test to…
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DW Doesn’t recognize me
My DW (65) has been battling Alzheimer’s for the past 8 years and is now in early Stage 7. I have been her primary caregiver throughout this journey, although earlier this year I hired a caregiver who comes four days a week during the daytime to help. Over the past several months, my wife has continued to decline. Most…
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CARE AT HOME UNSUSTAINABLE
My DW’s psychiatrist and non-residential memory care activities director have recommended residency, telling me that my caring for her at home is “unsustainable” and that I’m harming myself by trying to be her sole caregiver. What form could/will that “harm” take? What could happen to me? I’m stressed, sure, but feel that…
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Feels Like A Different Stage
Hi Everyone, When I found this group, I knew it would be supportive. Just reading all of your responses has given me a little peace of mind. My mom is 93 and two years ago was diagnosed with possible early dementia after leaving her home at 11PM and walking to the hairdresser's. Nothing like this has ever happened again,…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 5/15/26
GOOD FRUIT Galatians 5:22-23 New Living Translation 22 But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things! When I was a caregiver, I wasn’t perfect but the Holy Spirit’s fruit…
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Dad recently diagnosed
Hello all. I’m so grateful for these groups. I’m just beginning my Dads journey and I’m alone and need guidance please !!! I am a paramedic for 35 years and have a lot of medical experience but I have ZERO experience with this disease. From what I’m learning this disease follows no normal patterns. I feel like a rookie…
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Alzheimers and Christian Science
My "mother in law" (boyfriend's mother) was recently diagnosed with Alzheimers. We've had suspicions for a while. As we are starting to navigate more caregiving with her around this, we consistently run into tension around her faith, Christian Science. She basically believes it's mind over matter, she will be healed thru…
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Occupying Time
My father has recently lost the ability to drive and is particularly bored. My mom is home with him, but I know it's taxing for her, and all the children are located elsewhere, so we can't support. Can anyone offer suggestions so he isn't just on his phone all day?
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I lost my mother thirty years ago ...
Right away I found that sharing my story online helped me begin to heal. I started a website in her memory that is still around, although it is in need of updating, and I'm trying to work on that as I have time. It's still here: https://www.zarcrom.com/users/yeartorem/ Also, I will be walking this fall for my 29th year in…