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Getting support for my dad who is my mom's full-time caregiver
Hello, first post here, hoping to get some different perspectives. My mom was diagnosed with early onset alzheimer's nearly 8 years ago (I think) right around 60 years old, though she likely could have been diagnosed earlier, she had been showing symptoms for a few years at that point. My dad has always promised her he…
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New Here & Just Trying To Keep Up
I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed and alone, and I’m so thankful to have found this group. I’m 29 and live in Georgia. My mom is 65, lives alone in Florida, and was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. My parents are divorced, and my sister isn’t able to help due to her own challenges. My mom’s brother offered support…
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"I'm leaving to go home"
I am new to this forum. In September 2024, We took in my MIL who has Alzheimer's, stage 5. All in all things are going well. She always is trying to go pack up her belongings and get ready to go "Home". We do tell her that she lives with us now, she's safe and redirect her to something else, walk, go out for a drive etc.…
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Advice!!
I am new to the group and need advice. My Mom has late stages Alzheimer’s and has been able to be alone for part of the day while I work. This week every day she has been scared, anxious and leaves the house and then cannot figure out how to get back. I have a caregiver but she only comes from 12 to 1 as that is all I can…
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I don’t know what I’m doing
Hello, I am 25 years old. My mom (58) was diagnosed with early onset alzheimer’s recently. She was originally diagnosed with FTD last year, but due to genetic testing that discovered she has 2 copies of the APOE4 gene, her neurologist changed her diagnosis to EOA. Both her parents passed in the last few years from…
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Young Adult Daughter of Dad with Dementia
Hi everyone! I'm 22, just came home from graduating college and sadly my Dad was recently diagnosed with Dementia after 2 years of agitation, aggression, and eventually psychosis symptoms. With the help of medication, we are so grateful to now get glimpses of the phenomenal superhero of a man/dad he was for me all my life.…
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Showering /refusing/thinking they have
I am a caregiver ,been one for 5 years. I have not ever came across anyone with this type of situation before. My client refuses to shower. She states that she already has taken one either morning or night but has not. Family has cameras up that proves she does not shower. I have used many tactics as to we can go to dinner…
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Long Distance Mom has Dementia, and I am the only Child
Hello, I live a plane flight or 1.5-days driving away from my mom and I am only son. She has dementia and lives alone with her dog and cat. I can see her deterioration and have taken over all of her bills, taxes, online shopping, ordering food deliveries, etc for her. I have three children (teenagers) living with me and…
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Advice for Going Back to Work
I took FMLA for a year to assist with the new diagnosis of Alzheimers for my mom. It was intermittent FMLA so while I still worked, I was able to take off for appointments, my own mental health, and days that seemed like my mom just needed someone to be with her. I was averaging about 20 hours a week rather than my full 40…
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Providing Support for my Family
Hi, I am looking for some advice. For some background, my mom (58) was recently diagnosed with EOA. She no longer works and is home during the day with my brother (28 with down syndrome). My dad lives with them, but works full time. I (25) live nearby with my fiancé and I also work full time. My mom is obviously going…
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New To Forum. Mom has UTI that has progressed dementia symptoms
Hi all. I'm 34 & I've been my mom's primary caregiver since I was 22. For the past decade, she's had some memory problems (misplacing things, forgetting what day it is, forgetting how to navigate some driving routes, forgetting there's a boiling pan on the stove). Yet this was always managable with my help until recently.…
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Falling Apart Caring for my Mom
Hello. I am not doing well. My dad had Alzheimers in the last 7 years of his life, and I cared for him. I thought that was all over when he died in 2017. Then in 2020, it started all over again with my mom. It's been 5 years now, and I'm going absolutely bonkers. My life is falling apart caring for her. Almost everything…
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no meds
My DW was diagnosed with dementia of the altzheimer type frontal lobe complicated by depression. The main concern that I have is I do not know how to help her take her meds. When I offer she either becomrs very agitated with the final statement that she is stupid or says she will. She was given 24 amocycilin by a dentist a…
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Mother Passed Away/Car Keys
My mother passed away 3-4-25. Father was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s January 2023. He has been is early stage to date. Still takes care of himself, but can’t manage bills laundry or cook. I have 2 sisters. One lives right beside him & helps a lot, but works FT. One lives within 5 blocks, helps after work. I live 2 hrs away,…
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New here. Overwhelmed
I’m caring for my dad, 84. He’s at home. Still able to walk, bathe, use the bathroom and dress by himself. He gets so depressed, though. Just hangs his head almost to his chest. He often thinks we are at a home that looks like his, but it isn’t. He is getting more and more assertive when talking to me. I just needed to…
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Female spouse w/young kids looking for mom in similar situation?
I'd love to find a caregiver like myself to exchange texts with, like our own mini support group. This is likely too specific, but ideally it would be a woman whose partner is in the early stages of Alzheimer's (like, very very early stages where most people can't tell) and whose kids are still living at home (our kids are…
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Sandwich generation - having a baby while caregiving for dementia
Hi everyone, I have posted a few times here before and this forum has been so helpful. My dad (77, mid stage 5) moved to memory care in September. He has adjusted really well. He doesn't remember home or ask to leave, he is always engaged in activities when I visit, the staff love him, and I think he has made some friends…
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New-ish diagnosis
My father has been diagnosed with MS ALZ and it is clear that the disease is progressing rapidly. What do folks do when the families cannot afford in home care or facility care? His insurances only will cover certain things. He cannot be home alone anymore. Any tips/advice would be appreciated so much we are desperate 😔
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Sometimes I just want to hide
Hi all, been browsing thru these discussions. It nice to know I'm not alone. I'm 66 yrs old and my DW with Alts. is 68. I have allot of mental anguish for my loved one. 44 yrs of married life 2yrs of serious dementia issues. I have troubles with her sometimes telling me she doesn't know who I am-and wants me to get out of…
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Living with Alzheimer's - A Caregiver's Journey
My wife was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's eight years ago when she was just 60 years old. I have been her primary caregiver every day since then until her death last month. As a means to help me cope with this terrible disease I wrote a detailed journal of my experience over that entire time. The writing is in two…
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What has changed in a year and a half
Greetings all. In September 2023, I moved both my parents into my home. My dear mom has Alzheimer's. My dear dad has mild cognitive impairment. They are 85 and 87 respectively. For more background, see the discussion at https://alzconnected.org/discussion/64542/moving-my-folks-into-my-house#latest btw - I copied and pasted…
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Whom do I believe? My Mom or the caretaker?
Hi Everyone! I'm new to this community. This is my first post. My Dad passed away last fall and I had to take over as my Mom's caretaker. She has dementia and I am her POA and only living relative who is able and willing to take care of her. I have been very overwhelmed taking care of my Mom since my Dad died, especially…
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Thank Your Past Self
Please take a moment and think about something you did in the past, that makes your present situation better. When I started caring for my parents, as I began each visit, I made a new note on my phone. It was always titled Thank You! Each time I benefited from one of my past actions, I put a hash tag on my note. For…
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Not sure what to do.
Im taking care of my grandma who has been diagnosed with dementia, i started taking care of her since i turned 18, this really wasn’t a choice for me but im here and im trying my best everyday however there are things that are popping up making it difficult for me to care for her and i need help, she argues all the time i…
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Overwhelmed? It is the loved ones of those with Alzheimer's who bear the greatest burden.
It is the loved ones of those with Alzheimer's who bear the greatest burden, and often care for them at the expense of their own well-being. It is common for family members and loved ones to find themselves thrust into this nightmare completely unprepared and ill-equipped for it. Sadly, much will be damaged or completely…
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Feel Lost, Need Advice with Mom's Dementia/Alzheimers, Living and Depression
Mom was diagnosed 3 years ago with dementia. We believe she is about 5 - 6 years into it though. She also has severe depression, diagnosed 30 years ago. She is in an AL, but absolutely hates the place. This is her 4th home in 3 years, and the smallest so far (IL, AL, MC, AL). She is again in a severe depression, they seem…
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Not taking it well...
Hi, I am totally new to this...writing and my husband behavior. I also have a hard time with sharing about our life but my daughter told me...mom find some group for your self I can't help you. My husband developed sings of dementia last year in february which we didn't noticed right away. It has been getting slowly…