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I am so scared
I'm so scared of what this diagnosis means for me and my mom. I've worked with a number of Alz patients while working in emergency psychiatric departments or adult psychiatric departments. It was brutal. Devastating to their kids and devastating to see their moments of clarity, briefly realizing they are losing their…
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Help! Overwhelmed and Dad won't address things
My mom (79) has dementia. I don't think she'll ever have any diagnosis. She won't even take her temperature. My dad (78) still has POA but won't do what's necessary for taking care of himself let alone her (i.e. meds, driving, home safety, home help, future planning, etc.) He/they don't know what state to live in when they…
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Maybe I’m overreacting?
My husband is my concern. I’ve tried to talk to him about my concerns. Memory, irrational behavior, inappropriate decisions, he will not discuss or answer questions. His mom past of ALZ in 2022. He refused to help in any way with her care. His sister and I were there. HOw can I get him to see a doctor. I bring it up he…
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destructive treatment from my wife's daughter
My wife is afflicted with ALZ. she still loves me but we have had difficulties over the last month or so. We always had arguments over our 46 year marriage. So she asked for help from her daughters and they have offered it. Fine. Now she is 400 miles away. But now the oldest one has taken another step. She has blocked all…
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home care vs assisted living
My mom has Alzheimers and my dad has dementia. I'm trying to decide whether to place them in an assisted living facility or hire 24/7 home health care in their home. They live in NY and I'm in MA. Does anyone have experience with either? I'm trying to think of a list of pros and cons. Thanks.
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Got the Job. Now What?
I was offered the job in Manhattan. Start date 10/20. 3 weeks from now. I should be celebrating, but it just complicates my situation. I have three options, none of which seem very good: 1. Take the job, and move both me and my mom up there, somehow, in 3 weeks. Find new apartments in NY, break leases, hire moving company,…
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Medicare Question
Hi everyone, My mom was just diagnosed with Alzheimer's (mild) state. She currently has Medicare under an Advantage Plan - United Healthcare. Because of her new diagnosis, we are considering moving her back to Original Medicare in order to have more options for care. Does anyone have advice about this (i.e. having Original…
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Downsizing While Caring for a Spouse with Alzheimer’s — Has Anyone Done This?
Hi everyone, My dad (65) has Alzheimer’s and is slowly declining. At this point, he can’t prepare meals beyond grabbing something simple, and he needs help or reminders with personal care like shaving and showering. His speech and understanding are very limited, and while he’s still in good spirits, his independence has…
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US SSA does not recognize POA
This may be well known to most of you, but it was news to me only a few days ago. Social Security agents could not talk to me about my dad’s benefits, since SSA does not accept DPOA. I had to apply directly to the SSA to be a “representative payee.” It would have helped if I had known that term! The process was not that…
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Caring for My Dad (65, Alzheimer’s) — Looking for Guidance
Hi everyone, My dad is 65 and has Alzheimer’s. He’s still in good spirits, but his abilities are getting more limited. He can’t really make meals anymore beyond grabbing something simple, and he needs reminders and some help with personal care like shaving and showering. His speech and understanding are also very limited.…
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Working?
I’m in the stage in which I recognize my own diminished cognitive skills, but don’t have a diagnosis yet. My job performance is suffering, which is very stressful. How did you navigate this phase? Which came first, your diagnosis or problems at work? Did you resign, or use long term disability? Our family relies on my…
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Mom lives in Independent Living Fac, needs to move to AL, hard 'No!'
I am new to this forum. I have found many discussions relevant to my situation. I received a lot of good information from these discussions, but I figured I'd post my question on the off chance some more information may come to light. I currently care for my Mother with the help of my wife. My mom moved from out of state…
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Cared For Grandparents and Now Mother
Hello! I helped my mom care for her parents as they suffered with dementia and Alzheimer's for several years before they passed. It was physically, mentally and emotionally difficult on both of us and traumatizing for my mom especially. Now, 4ish years since her dad passed, my 60 y/o mom is showing her own signs. She's…
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Dementia and cancer
I need major advice. My mom has dementia and was just diagnosed with stage 1 lung cancer. Very treatable, if not curable. All she has to do is go through some radiation. She is probably in stage 5 or 6 with dementia... very very paranoid about everything and anything medical all but traumatizes her. She is also a recent…
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Father Diagnosed, What Now?
Hello everyone! My father was just yesterday diagnosed with EOAD after his father was hit with Alzheimer's, and his brother is exhibiting the same symptoms. In January my father will be tested to see if there's a genetic link, but my understanding is that it will be almost certain that I will have the same condition this…
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LGBTQ Eldery Father community
Hello my father was just recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s via MRI Amyloid scan. Its still early stages but as we know the eventual progression as he decided, which my sisters are aligned on, to not test the brain infusion treatments which only recently have been approved, we want to try as best we can to speak now about…
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Recomendacion para un Geriatrico doctor que hable español en los angeles county?
Hola, mi mama (75) ayer fue diagnosticada con alzheimer's. Esta en las primeras etapas y el hipocampo apenas se esta agrandando. Tengo muchas preguntas pero no se ni donde empezar. Vivimos en los angeles, yo vivo con mi esposo y mi hermana mayor. Mi mama vive sola a 5min de nuestro apartamento y la visitamos diario. No…
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Days Out for MC Resident?
My dad has been in MC for about a year and is now about stage 5/6. We have brought him to our house for a meal and a visit of a few hours most weekends in good weather (no overnights). Mostly this has been OK. He likes the food, and hosting him in our home gives me some sense of satisfaction. He has put up very little…
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I don’t know what I’m doing
Hello, I am 25 years old. My mom (58) was diagnosed with early onset alzheimer’s recently. She was originally diagnosed with FTD last year, but due to genetic testing that discovered she has 2 copies of the APOE4 gene, her neurologist changed her diagnosis to EOA. Both her parents passed in the last few years from…
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Filing for Long Term Care Insurance too early?
Hi, I am posting for the first time regarding my 83 year old Grandma. She has had cognitive and memory issues for years, but in the past month she was properly diagnosed with dementia. I had previously lived with her 3 years ago after she was a scam victim, but after about a half of year, I moved back home. I am now…
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60 minutes interview
This was posted by a neighbor. Can you imagine being worried about retaliation for speaking about Alzheimer’s research?
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My first post - coping as a young person in a family with a history of alzheimers
Hello, I am a 24 year old woman who helps to care for my grandmother who has alzheimers. I live about 3 hours from her, my mom and grandpa are her primary care givers. I make trips to visit about once a month. I have joined this forum in hopes of finding folks to talk to about my experience as a young person who has…
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When Does Long-Distance Caregiving Stop Working?
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Feeling Conflicted and Guilty about moving on…
My wife is in the mid to later stages of AZ and is struggling to communicate, she sits quietly most of the time. In addition to AZ she has a genetic eye defect that is incurable, she is legally blind and needs help with everything. I am her caregiver and have given up most of my exercise and outdoor activities to support…
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Thank Your Past Self
Please take a moment and think about something you did in the past, that makes your present situation better. When I started caring for my parents, as I began each visit, I made a new note on my phone. It was always titled Thank You! Each time I benefited from one of my past actions, I put a hash tag on my note. For…
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Memory card financing
hi community, just wanted to get advice on how to finance your DH staying at a memory care facility. Does insurance cover that?
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Self-care (for the caregivers)
I'm helping to care for a parent (ALZ) with my sister. Mom even lives in a retirement community (still independent living) so day to day I do have my own life. It is still so hard. I went to visit for lunch today and now feel exhausted and can't refocus on work. I can't even imagine how much more difficult if I had her in…
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From NYT: She's Trying to Stay Ahead of Alzheimer's...
Trigger Warning: This article discusses the euthanasia in the context of dementia and capacity to make that decision. https://www.nytimes.com/2025/02/16/health/assisted-death-alzheimers-netherlands.html?unlocked_article_code=1.xU4.tbXQ.v-oE6OJf1pgh&smid=url-share
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Worried about return to workplace
I don't know if I'm the only one here who is a Fed. But now with the return to the workplace my sister and I are scrambling trying to figure out the best way someone can be with mom during the day that is affordable. Everything is so stressful with the info coming from above changing daily - sometimes hourly. I don't know…