Double Trouble - New to the group
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Hi and welcome although sorry for the reason you are here. Two at once is difficult indeed. Do you have DPOA for both parents? Are you still working?
Just take it one step at a time. You can reach out to the Alzheimers Association Helpline if necessary 800-272-3900 and keep reaching out here. Blessings and hugs.
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Welcome. So sorry about your parents. Read the book “The 36 Hour Day” and search online for dementia caregiving videos by Tam Cummings and Teepa Snow. Search online for a chart that lists the behaviors of the 7 stages of dementia. That will give you a general idea of what stage each of your parents is in. Many caregivers with one parent are not able to care for their LO alone as they progress. I can’t imagine caring for 2 parents with dementia. I think you will need help sooner than later. That help can be in home hired caregivers or a memory care facility. I would meet with an elder care attorney asap to discuss options for their long term care and make a plan and a Plan B. Come here often for info and support. Hugs. 💜
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Thank you both so much for the support and info. I am the HPOA & FPOA for both of my parents. I’m literally just waiting until one of them qualifies for hospice so I can get help. There are a lot of services they can provide. I’m sure my mom will qualify first. I hired Safe at Home for my mom because she refuses to let us help her take a shower. She insists she ‘just took one’ even though it’s been 2-3 weeks.
It’s definitely a challenge and this is just the beginning. Working in hospice, I know what is coming. It’s so hard knowing they are both terminal at this point. Lots of prayers going on right now. 🥺. I had to stop working about a year ago do to their decline. Neither are able to cook or drive anymore.2
Commonly Used Abbreviations
DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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