Peeing all over himself

tboard · November 12

My DH with mixed dementia has started having accidents in the bathroom. Some of the urine goes into the toilet the rest ends up on the toilet, floor. He wets his pats and urine runs down his leg into his shoes. His shoes are washable but they need hours to dry. I bought him sone washable slippers so that I can get through an entire day on one load of wash. He usually soils a few complete changes of clothing. If he gets up at night to go to the bathroom I need to get up and be ready to deal with the mess.

He gets angry if I remind him to go or suggest that he should try, to go. I think maybe he isn't quite making it to the toilet or maybe he has forgotten how to use the toilet.

Looking for suggestions. I don't think wearing disposables will work even if I could get him to wear then he would still head to the bathroom and make a mess.

Metta · November 12

I don’t have any advice for you, but I do feel your pain. This was our life for 10 months until DH became wheelchair bound. Even though he wore depends, he would (and still does) pull it out and just go everywhere. I call it the pee fountain.

Perhaps someone will have good advice for you.

My only strategy with DH, after realizing he just couldn’t understand that anything was wrong with how or where he pee’d, was to adopt a cheerful voice and say “It’s just a little water. Let me get you some dry clothes.” He was comforted by that and didn’t feel shamed, no point in that.

dmae · November 12

I have found toilet mats (an absorbent disposable floor mat) helps with the clean up. Also, does he have trouble standing up? Would a bathroom bar to help steady himself help? Good luck!

harshedbuzz · November 12

@tboard

It's time he needs to be supervised in the bathroom. It would be useful to encourage being seated as visual processing can make hitting the target. This sounds like incontinence is in your future as well. Leading into that, many PWD forget the steps around the etiquette and hygiene of toileting so being there to make sure he washes his hands will help keep the house healthier for you both.

HB

tboard · November 12

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/258345#Comment_258345

Thanks for the reminder. He can't help it. I need to stay calm even in the middle of the night.

tboard · November 12

Toilet mat. That would help. Thanks.

jfkoc · November 12

Two thing come to my mind that may help

paint the top of the toilet bowl with re paint so that he can see just where to pee
use hydrogen peroxide for clean up and of course paper towels …Viva makes a soft one
yes, one more…pull up disposables…di not discuss just replace what is in the drawer

added…get a 6 sided water proof mattress cover and large pads for your furniture

SDianeL · 4:55AM

very common in men with dementia. Their visual perception is affected by the disease. Some tips: put night lights all the way from bed to the bathroom. Put night lights in the bathroom. I put a battery operated light on top of the toilet tank. Put toilet bowl cleaner in the toilet that turns the water blue. Get a brightly colored toilet seat-contrast is important. Get a red urinal for beside the bed in case he’s in a hurry. Replace all of his underwear with men’s depends that look like briefs. Fib to him and tell him they’re the new thing. Get you some too if you have to. Get a bed alarm so you know when he gets up to go. Get a splash guard for the toilet seat so when he sits the urine goes in the toilet. Order disposable mats that go on the floor around the toilet. Get pants and shorts with no zippers that he can pull them down easily.

tboard · 12:23PM

Thanks. Clearly, you have some experience with this. I doubt I can convince him on the depends as he doesn't care what is in and what is out. :)

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